10 Leadership Lessons from" The Leader in you"-Dale Carnegie

 10 Leadership Lessons from" The Leader in you"-Dale Carnegie

1. Talk less, listen more.

People will pay attention to what you say, just because of your position. The leader’s job is to pay attention to what other people say, especially those who think their views don’t count. Show you’re listening by acting on what people tell you, and gain their trust by giving them the credit.

2. Don’t step in with solutions too quickly.

No-one learns anything new if you keep doing what you already know how to do, and don’t allow others to try. Anyway, they may find a different, or better way, and if not… mistakes are valuable too.

3. Be authentic.

Be authentic, passionate, even emotional, about what you believe in. Share your vision and live your values. The personal is more engaging, even inspiring, than the process.

4. Don’t ‘dis’ downwards.

Once a decision is made by the Board, or the leadership team, it’s yours even if you argued against it during discussions. Your job as leader is to get others to believe in, and work towards, a shared goal, not to divide opinion or loyalties.

5. I’m OK: You’re OK.

Start from the position that everyone is doing the best they can, then look for ways to support and encourage them – which is so much more rewarding than finding fault.

6. Don’t be the smartest person in the room.

Being a leader does not mean knowing more than anyone else. Recognise, encourage and promote others as experts. Give them the trust and autonomy to be creative and do excellent work, defined in their terms. You simply provide the direction, so that this excellent work contributes to a shared purpose.

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7. Sense of purpose.

Your team know what they do and how to do it, but you can make a big difference by sharing a strong sense of why they’re doing it and where it’s heading. Help them develop a broad understanding of the team’s purpose, and faith in how their role contributes to the whole. (Remember the floor-sweeper at NASA?)

8. Being right isn’t enough.

A great idea is of no consequence unless you can convince others to believe it too, and then persuade them to help you make your idea a reality. The best way to do this is to make the idea theirs.

9. Focus on a few things.

Focusing on the things that really matter and where you can make a difference. There may be a hundred different distractions and demands on your time and a hundred ways you could respond, but it’s the dozen carefully chosen actions that deliver the results.

10. Get out and about.

Get out and about and in the work. It’s hard to retain that sense of what the job’s really about when you are sitting

10 Important Lessons from book -"RULES for MY UNBORN SON"

 10 Important Lessons from book -"RULES for MY UNBORN SON"

1)Self-discipline

Knowing how to work hard is just as important as working hard. Keeping yourself motivated when things are easy is one thing, but keeping yourself motivated when things are bad is another beast. Regardless of the situation, you must have the willpower to push through. Showing that you can do this will not only motivate those around you, it will make you a stronger man.

2)Take responsibility

In short step-up. Men take responsibility for their actions and don’t need others to tell them when or how to do so. Being responsible for one’s choices and actions isn’t always the easiest thing in the world. However, true manhood is being able to admit when they are wrong.

3)Choose your battles wisely.

It’s important to know which ones are worth fighting and which ones are better left as is. It’s okay to be quiet and walk away. It doesn’t make you less of a man.

4)Be a gentleman

Having old school values is okay. Treating women with respect is even more than okay.

-Hold the door

-Offer your seat.

-Push her chair up to the table.

-Watch your language

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5)Be honest with yourself and everyone else.

Men who are honest are comfortable in themselves. “An honest man has an honorable manhood, which is something that every man should consider to succeed in life.”

6)Humility

Confidence is important but so is being humble. Men have to learn how to balance the two. Being able to do creates a strong and effective leader, which should be the goal for every man.

7)Giving to others rather than receiving.

Men who exemplify manhood see a need, and take the necessary steps to remedy that need. Filling a void and helping others, gives you a greater sense of joy than seeing what others can do for you.

8)Manners

Men (especially fathers) are portrayed as disgusting pigs (ala Al Bundy), but that’s not all men. Manners are important every second of the day, in every situation. Whether you are at home eating at your dinner table or eating in a five-star restaurant. Manners define people, and it separates us in terms of class and sophistication. Having manners and using them, also means that you are showing others around you respect.

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9)Be open.

It’s okay to show feelings and to be sensitive. Toxic masculinity is a thing. To deny it exists is foolish. It’s not hard to find, and I could list several examples. In order to combat it, we have to teach our sons that it’s okay be vulnerable. It’s okay to show compassion to others. It’s a wonderful quality that all leaders have, which is why they are loved and respected by others.

10)The first shall be last.

This is a quote I read on Facebook a year ago and typed into my phone as a reminder.

True manhood puts others first. If you want to be a leader, then the place to be is on your knees, with a towel in your hand, washing someone’s feet.

Top 10 Time-Wasting Habits...

 Top 10 Time-Wasting Habits...

1. Trying to please everyone.

Strategies to overcome

• Learn to say no

• Prioritize your own needs

•Seek out supportive relationships

2. Overthinking

Strategies to overcome

• Write down your thoughts

• Practice mindfulness

•Use positive self-talk

3. Repeating the same mistakes

Strategies to overcome

• Stay organized 

• Seek feedback

• Reflect on the mistake

4. Complaining

Strategies to overcome

• Reframe your thoughts 

• Find ways to problem-solve

• Practice gratitude

5. Waiting for inspiration

Strategies to overcome

• Set specific goals

• Seek out new experiences

• Just take action

6. Holding grudges

Strategies to overcome

• Communicate honestly 

• Practice forgiveness

• Reflect on the situation

7. Focusing on the past

Strategies to overcome

• Set goals for the present and future

• Challenge negative thoughts 

• Reflect on the past in a positive light

8. Being indecisive

Strategies to overcome

• Seek out advice

• Take small steps

• Make a choice and move forward

9. Negative self-talk

Strategies to overcome

• Celebrate achievements

• Practice positive affirmations

• Identify negative thought patterns

10. Procrastinating on important tasks

Strategies to overcome

• Remove distractions

• Set deadlines

• View tasks as opportunities rather than burdens.

 

5 COMMON REASONS THAT PEOPLE HAVE TROUBLE IDENTIFYING THEIR DREAM

 5 COMMON REASONS THAT PEOPLE HAVE TROUBLE  IDENTIFYING THEIR DREAM 

1. Discouragement from other people: Many people have had their dreams knocked out of them. the world is filled with dreams crushers and idea killers. Some people who aren't pursuing any dream of their own don't like to see others pursuing theirs. other people's success makes them feel inadequate or insecure.

2. Some people are hindered by past disappointments and hurts: Disappointment is the gap that exists between expectation and reality. all of us have encountered that gap. we've had an unexpectedly bad experience. we've had to live with our unfulfilled desires and we've had our hope dashed. Disappointment can be highly damaging to us.

3. Some people get in the habit of setting for the habit of average: Columnist Maureen Dowd says, "The minutes you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for". Dreams require a person to stretch, to go beyond average. You can't reach for a dream and remain safety mediocre at the same time. The two are incompatible.

4. Some people lack the confidence needed to pursue their dreams: It takes confidence to talk about your dream and more to pursue it. and sometimes confidence separates the people who dream and pursue those dreams from those who don't.

5. Some people lack the imagination to dream: How do people discover their dream? by dreaming! That may sound overly simplistic, but that's where it starts. Imagination is the soil that brings a dream to life. Nobel prize-winning physicist Albert Einstein, a dreamer, and thinker understands the value of the imagination. He said, "When I examine myself and my method of thought, I come to the conclusion that the gift of fantasy has meant more to me than my talent for absorbing positive knowledge". Einstein called his imagination a "holy curiosity"

-JOHN C. MAXWELL

Top 5 Lessons learned from book -" BELIEVE YOU CAN "

 Top 5 Lessons learned from book -" BELIEVE YOU CAN "

1. If Youre Not You, Then Who Are You Going to Be?

Be yourself. Think about it: Arent most of the discontented people you know trying to be someone they arent or trying to do something theyre not supposed to do? A Congolese proverb asserts, Wood may remain ten years in the water, but it will never become a crocodile. Nobody is as disappointed and unhappy as the person who spends her life longing to be somebody else..

2. Dont Build a Case Against Yourself

Stewart Johnson commented, Our business in life is not to get ahead of others, but to get ahead of ourselvesto break our own records, to outstrip our yesterday by our today, to do our work with more force than ever before. Stop looking only at where you are and start looking at what you can be. If you doubt yourself, listen to Alexandre Dumas: A person who doubts himself is like a man who enlists in the ranks of his enemy and bears arms against himself. Tim Redmond cautions, Dont commit treason against your own life and purpose.

3. Thomas Edison Was Afraid of the Dark

Yes! Edison was afraid of the darkyet he overcame that obstacle in a big way and invented the light bulb. The door to opportunity swings on the hinges of adversity. Problems are the price of progress. The obstacles of life are intended to make us better, not bitter. Adversity has advantages. Dont let your problems take the leadyou take it. The difficulty you face is simply an opportunity for you to do your best.

4. You Can Only Live Today

Seize the moment! Opportunities are constantly either coming to you or by you. Today was once the future from which you expected so much in the past. Horatio Dresser said, The ideal never comes. Today is ideal for him who makes it so. Live for today. Dont let what you have within your grasp today be lost entirely because the future intrigues you and the past disheartens you.

5. Be a Little Kinder Than You Have to Be

Serving others is one of lifes most awesome privileges. Hunt for the good points in people. Remember, they have to do the same in your case. Then do something to help them. If you want to get ahead, be a bridge instead of a wall. Love others more than they deserve. Albert Schweitzer said, The only ones among you who will really be happy are those who have sought and found how to serve. Pierre Teilhard de Chardin commented, The most satisfying thing in life is to have been able to give a large part of oneself to others.

 50 short rules for a better life:

1. No one knows what they’re doing. Some do it anyway.

2. Work hard on what doesn’t feel like work.

3. Your thoughts make up your life. Literally. If you don't enjoy thinking about it, don't spend time pursuing it.

4. To make new friends, treat strangers like you’ve been friends forever.

5. If you want to win awards, be the best. If you want to actually win, be the only.

6. Most people don’t need advice. They need one person to believe in them.

7. Meditate to upgrade your software. Work out to upgrade your hardware.

8. When you can't decide, the answer is obvious.

9. Pick one problem to solve this decade, and problems today get a lot easier.

10. The happiest people combine art, passion, and purpose, into one compounding vehicle.

11. Spend time with freaks. They have dashes of genius, madness, harshness and kindness. Authenticity doesn't live in the middle.

12. The world wants to know you for one thing. Do everything you want, but own one idea.

13. To be heard, don’t follow the herd.

14. Fill your mind with inspiration from the edges. Read old books. Walk new streets. Unique ideas starts with unique input.

15. People can ‘feel the energy you put into your work.

16. When you’re good, they tell you. When you’re great, they tell others.

17. If you’re following steps, you’re falling behind.

18. The more you’re hesitating to share it, the more you desperately need to.

19. Art is a marathon of creative sprints.

20. The more you write, the more you’re right.

21. Never apologize for doing something good for you, but strange for others.

22. The future of work is not 'play.' It's a relentless obsession with what sets your heart on fire. This isn't a game. It's war. With a beautiful, torturous craft that consumes your entire life.

23. If you’re being copied, you’re on to something.

24. Life is short. The world is small. You owe it to yourself, to bet everything on a dream you don’t want to wake up from.

25. Obsess over the details for a decade, and you will win.

26. When you’re predictably unpredictable, they pay attention.

27. Life gets easier when you fall in love with hard things.

28. Don’t ‘be’ things. Do things.

29. Working out without your phone will solve 99% of your problems.

30. If you're not obsessed with the future you're creating, create a new one.

31. If your problems were given to a friend, you’d know exactly what they should do.

32. When you’re stuck between two things, choose a third.

33. Happiness can be measured by how excited you are to wake up.

34. The more obsessed you are with your craft, the more relaxed you’ll be with your life.

35. If you think you need a haircut, get a haircut.

36. If you can make decisions quickly, and unemotionally, the world is yours.

37. Use technology more than it uses you.

38. If you want people to follow you, lead them somewhere.

39. Focus on art for a decade, and profit will come for a lifetime.

40. When you start enjoying pressure, you’re about to win big.

41. Most progress comes without a plan.

42. Everyone is dying to talk about *something.* Notice when their voice changes, when their eyes light up, and let them share that world with you. Make people feel seen for their obsessions.

43. Great writing isn’t read. It’s felt.

44. Use your dark side to make something bright.

45. True greatness is a rare combination of obsession, service, and patience.

46. Pain tells you exactly where to go.

47. Don't trust an ideas you 'think' of. The greatest ideas come to you. And you have no other choice.

48. Life's short. Go make stuff.

49. Put yourself in places you don't belong. One day, you'll end up where you want to be.

50. The number one rule: Break as many rules as possible.

Keep following 

𝐓𝐨𝐩 𝟏𝟐 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 "𝐑𝐞𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤"

 𝐓𝐨𝐩 𝟏𝟐 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 "𝐑𝐞𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤"

1. Mistakes and Learning

- Learning from your success will always tell you what to do next. Therefore, it is important to understand that failure is not a prerequisite to success.

- When you learn from your mistakes, you learn what NOT to do.

2. Don’t let the past drive the future

- You have to learn to go in new directions because that is what is suitable today.

-  If you break your tasks into smaller ones, you are much more likely to be accurately compared to estimating something big.

3. Premature Growth means death

- See what feels right, small companies wish they were big, and big companies wish they were more agile.

- Premature growth is a dead point, don’t grow for the sake of growing.

4. Don’t be a Workaholic

- Workaholics create more problems than they solve. If you always work hard, you don’t know what are considered to be real problems.

- Work hard when required, not always — you will burn out.

5. Let your customers miss you

- You want your customers to feel that if you stop doing what you do, they will feel something is missing.

-Build stuff you want to use. When you solve your own problem, you know how to solve it.

6. Don’t be a hypocrite, and stay in control!

- Don’t be a hypocrite like these companies who say they are sorry to keep you waiting but still put you on hold for hours!

- That thinking a robot is showing “genuine affection” is silly.

7. Worry about the necessities.

- Whatever you decide to do, ask yourself if it adds value. Value is about balance, will your “change” actually do anything?

- Don’t add unless it really impacts your product, and avoid throwing good time at bad work!

8. Work smart, and avoid interruptions!

- Some people work hours through the night when there is little or no interruption.

- You need to focus for long periods of time.

9. Meetings, the right way…

- Meetings generally are so vague they never have a goal.

- Create a “JUDO” approach. This is when you find a simple solution to a complex problem, even if it is not perfect.

10. Small victories

- Accomplish small victories along the way. When you start small, get feedback instantly, and keep this process up until you go big.

- You can manage small victories by prioritizing.

11. Creativity

- Be creative, and make the product about you.

- Do not copy anyone. Focus on injecting what is unique about you into your product.

12. Take responsibility

-There are always people who will call you out on your flaws. Hold your hands up straight away.

- The highest person ranked should take responsibility and promptly address the issue.

You can't improve if you don't know what you're doing wrong.

• Make time for stillness

• Master your mind

• Practice decision-making skills

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𝟏𝟎 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐅𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 "𝐁𝐞 𝐁𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐁𝐢𝐭-𝐁𝐲- 𝐁𝐢𝐭"

 𝟏𝟎 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐅𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 "𝐁𝐞 𝐁𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐁𝐢𝐭-𝐁𝐲- 𝐁𝐢𝐭"

1. Small daily improvements over time lead to stunning results.

2. The only way to improve is to take action.

3. Success is a journey, not a destination. Enjoy the journey.

4. It's not about being perfect, it's about making progress.

5. Every challenge is an opportunity to learn and grow

6. When you change your habits, you change your life.

7. The greatest discovery of this generation is that a human being Can alter his life by altering his attitude.

8. One hour of television will pass by, but one hour of reading will remain with you forever.

9. The Way to Overcome resistance and the fear of failure is to make small and consistent efforts toward fulfilling One's goals.

10. Once you remove the Shield of ignorance, your life will be very different as you discover the potential of your mind.

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HOW TO RESPECT YOURSELF IN 2023

 HOW TO RESPECT YOURSELF IN 2023

1...Stop looking for who is not looking for you.

2... Stop begging.

3...Stop saying more than necessary.

4...When people disrespect you, confront them immediately.

5...Don't eat other people's food more than they eat yours.

6...Reduce how you visit some people, especially if they don't reciprocate it.

7...Invest in yourself. Make yourself happy.

8... Stop entertaining gossip about other people.

9...Think before you talk. 80% of how people value you is what comes out of your mouth.

10... Always look your best. Dress the way you should be addressed.

11... Be an achiever. Get busy with your goals

12...Respect your time.

13... Don't stay in a relationship where you don't feel respected and valued. Walk away.

14... Learn to spend money on yourself. That's how people will learn to spend on you.

15... Be scarce sometimes.

16...Be a giver more than a receiver.

17...Don't go where you are not invited. And when invited don't overstay your welcome.

18...Treat people exactly the way they deserve.

19... Except they owe you money, two call attempts is enough. If they value you they will call you back.

20...Be good at what you do.

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S.T.I.C.K TO YOUR DREAMS:

 S.T.I.C.K TO YOUR DREAMS:

• S-Stay away from toxic people

• T-Try not to overthink.

•  I-Ignore negative opinions.

• C-Continue to have faith.

• K-Keep working for