அறிவின் காதலன்: July 2023

Wednesday, July 19, 2023

Positions are temporary

Ranks and tittles are limited

But the way you treat peoples

Will always be remembered

"Your silence will not protect you."

"Your silence will not protect you." - Audre Lorde.

While building in silence may be a strategy that some choose, it is important to remember that silence doesn't always shield us from attacks or criticisms.

When we choose to be silent about our achievements, goals, or ideas, we may unintentionally invite speculation, assumptions, or misunderstandings from others.

Instead of allowing silence to be a defense mechanism, we can focus on developing effective communication skills and assertiveness to express ourselves confidently and authentically.

By speaking up and sharing our accomplishments and aspirations with clarity and purpose, we give others a chance to understand and appreciate our journey.

In doing so, we also give ourselves the opportunity to shape the narrative surrounding our work and protect our own interests.

While it's true that not everyone will support or understand our endeavors, embracing our own voice and speaking our truth empowers us to find the right people who will encourage, uplift, and collaborate with us.

So, rather than relying solely on silence as a shield against potential attacks, let's strive for open and honest communication paired with resilience and self-advocacy.

Remember, your voice has the power to shape your own narrative and create meaningful connections with those who value and appreciate your journey.

Friday, July 14, 2023

வாழ்க்கை தத்துவம் 6

ஒரு ஆறு பாயிண்ட் சொல்றேன் கேளுங்க..

1.எதற்கெடுத்தாலும் எல்லாத்துக்கும்

கவலை படாதீங்க.

காலையில அழுதா

ஈவினிங் சிரிப்போம்..

துக்கமோ மகிழ்வோ எதுவோ

அதிக நேரம் நம்ம உடல்நிலை எடுத்துக்காது.

எல்லாம் கொஞ்ச நேரம்.

மீறி போனா அதை நீங்களே பிடிச்சு தொங்கறீங்கன்னு அர்த்தம்.

2.யதார்த்தம் பழகுங்க..

அதான் முக்கியம்.

யார்‌ வேணா கீழிருந்து மேலையும் மேலிருந்து கீழேயும் ஒரு நாளிலியே மாறிடுவாங்க.

எனக்கா இந்த நிலைமை ன்னு வாயடைச்சு போகாதீங்க.

உங்களை விட அவமான பட்டவங்க எல்லாம் உலகத்துல இருக்காங்க.

3.எதையும் ஆழமாக நேசிக்காதீங்க.

எதையும் ஆழமாக யோசிக்காதீங்க.

ரொம்ப சிம்பிள் இது.

நேசித்தலும் அதற்கான

யோசித்தலும் தான் அழுகைக்கு அடிப்படை காரணம் என்ற தத்துவத்தை புரிஞ்சுக்கோங்க.

4.ஒருத்தவங்க போயிட்டாங்கன்னா கெஞ்சாதீங்க.

வேணும் வரை இருந்துட்டு திடீர்னு போறாங்கன்னா கஷ்டபட வேண்டியது அவங்க தான். ‌

நீங்க இல்ல.

உதாசீன படுத்தினா உதறி விடுங்க.

விலகி செல்பவர்களிடம் தானா போயிட்டு அன்பை கொட்டாதீங்க..

அதனால் வர அற்ப கவலைகளுக்கு

இடம் தராதீங்க..

அந்த நினைவுகள் மேலே எழும்பிச்சுன்னா ஒரே போடு போட்டு புதைச்சிடுங்க..

5.துரோகம் பழகுங்க...

பிறப்பு இறப்பு போல துரோகமும்

மனித வாழ்வில் ஓர் அங்கம்.

ஏமாற்றத்தை ஏற்றுக்கங்க.

அப்பதான் அடுத்த முறை

ஏமாற மாட்டீங்க.

இழப்புகளை இயல்பாக்குங்க.

அப்போதுதான் இழப்புகளை பற்றி

கவலைபட மாட்டீங்க.

அவ்வளவு எளிதில் எவரையும்

நம்பிடாதீங்க.

வாழ்க்கையில் இதான் முக்கியம்.

6.ஆறுதலா இருக்க உங்களை தயார்படுத்திக்கங்க.

வேற யாரும் பண்ணுவாங்கன்னு நிக்காதீங்க.

உங்களுக்கு நீங்க தான் வேலைக்காரன் எஜமான் எல்லாமே..

Thursday, July 13, 2023

_Simple silent life rules _

1.Don’t be an emotional fool in making decisions or in a relationship. 😔

2.Don't over trust anyone or blind in love/friendship.

3.Spending time alone is better than wasting time with the wrong person.

4.Making friends that have the same goals like yours. Otherwise you are better off with your own company.

5.Surround yourself with positive people,stay away from negative vibe.

6.It is ok to make mistakes but never forget the learning.

7.Never lose your self respect to acquire someone in your life.

8.Cut off toxic people or fake people from your life that bother your blood veins.

9.Never change your vibes to fit into someone’s surroundings. 10.Remember, you are unique in your own way.

11.Don’t take too much stress, past or present. Neither You change the past nor predict the future. So chill…😗

12.People are like the weather they keep on changing with their needs. Don’t be suprised or sad with this.

13.Don’t go behind pleasing people. Do what you like or live in your own way.

14.Know your value, don’t settle for less. You deserve better.🤟

15.Love yourself or accept yourself the way you are💓.

13 Benefits of keeping your life private

1.People don't get to see your plans, they only see results and this constantly keeps them guessing.

2.More respect. Over-familiarity with the public attracts disrespect.

3.Less hate, drama and toxicity from the public.

4..It helps you gain inner-peace and genuine happiness without seeking for validation

5.When you're private, people don't know how and when to attack you. So, you keep haters confused.

6..Other people can trust you more especially with their personal lives.

7.You don't have to depend on others to be happy.

8.It saves you from mental health problems

9.You prioritize your happiness and self-growth more which makes life more beautiful.

10.People can not use your weaknesses against you

11.You focus on your purpose, passion, good relationships and other things that matter most in life without constant distraction.

12.Your self-confidence increases.

13.You become a role model to others.

NB: being private is different from being secretive.

10 lessons from "The Art of Public Speaking" by Dale Carnegie:

1. Ask questions. Asking questions is a great way to get your audience involved and to get feedback on your presentation.

2. Tell stories. Stories are a great way to engage your audience and make your points more memorable.

3. Be enthusiastic. Enthusiasm is contagious, and it will make your audience more likely to be interested in what you have to say.

4. Speak clearly and slowly. Don't mumble or speak too quickly, or your audience will have trouble understanding you.

5. Use gestures and facial expressions. Gestures and facial expressions can help to emphasize your points and to make your presentation more lively

6. Smile. Smiling makes you look confident and approachable, and it also helps to put your audience at ease.

7. Become interested in other people. The most important thing to remember when speaking to an audience is that you are not the most important person in the room. Your audience is, and you need to focus on their needs and interests.

8. Vary your tone of voice. Don't drone on in a monotone voice. Use different tones to emphasize different points and to keep your audience engaged.

9. Use simple language. Avoid using jargon or technical terms that your audience may not understand.

10. Practice, practice, practice. The more you practice, the more confident you will become, and the better your presentation will be.

These are just a few of the many lessons that can be learned from "The Art of Public Speaking." If you follow these tips, you will be well on your way to becoming a more confident and effective public speaker.

FACTS ABOUT PERSONALITY ⚠️

1. People will respect you based on how you respect yourself, talk to people and how you treat people around you with respect and good and positive energy.

2. No amount of bribery can make people love you if you're a bad person.

3. Good behavior attracts people to you, while bad behavior repels people.

4. Tell people your own story first. They will share theirs eventually. (The Art of Making Someone Confess).

5.Blind people are much sensitive.

6. If you want someone new to like you, then refer to people you’ve just met by their name. People love being referred to by their name and it will establish a sense of trust and friendship right away.

7.Be thankful for all the struggles you went through. They make you stronger, wiser and humble. Don't let it break you and let it make you.

8. Slow eaters generally like to be in control and know how to appreciate life. Fast eaters tend to be ambitious, goal-oriented, open to new experiences, and often impatient.

9. Before talking to a new person, a smile from you gains their positive approach towards you.

10.70% of people pretend to be okay simply because they don't want to annoy others with their problems.

11. You don’t have to be good at all things to be rich, but you have to be good at some things in which no one can beat you.

12. People think that to be strong is to never feel pain . But in reality, the strongest people are the ones who feel it but get through it.

13.Apparently, it will only take up to 4 minutes to decide whether you like someone or not. As such, if you want to make a good impression on someone, you have only got around 4 minutes to do so.

Wednesday, July 12, 2023

FINDING A HUSBAND IS VERY HARD

1. You find a handsome one, the brain is empty.

2. You find a brilliant one. He looks too serious.

3. You find a rich one, he is disrespectful.

4. You find a hard-working one, he never has time for you,

5. You find a serious one, his EX keeps calling.

6. You find a humble one, he is broke.

7. You find a responsible one, he is not romantic.

8. You find an educated one, he feels he is always right.

9. You find an illiterate one, he always gets angry whenever you correct him.

10. You find a smart one, he lies every time.

THE SIX LIES:Every leader who tell themselves that lead to their ruin

THE SIX LIES:

1. I DON’T NEED ADVICE. Every leader who crashed has this in common: they surrounded themselves with “Yes-Men” who built their egos, rather than mental superiors who challenged their complacency. Teachability is the leader’s greatest asset. It gives you access to the wisdom of others, the experience of mentors, and the favor of God.

2. I’M ENTITLED TO SPECIAL TREATMENT. Leadership may have its perks, but leaders should never think they’re entitled to those perks. Wise leaders have learned to manage influence, admiration and popularity with integrity, purity and humility.

3. YOUNG PEOPLE DON’T KNOW ANYTHING. If you’re not building a team with young leaders, you’re destined to fail. Having no loyalty to traditions and status quo, they question norms and challenge assumptions. This ability to see things differently enables young leaders to bring fresh insights and creative solutions.

4. NO ONE SHOULD QUESTION MY DECISIONS. Every successful organization had courageous leaders who created a culture where trusted people could give them open and honest feedback. Leaders who demand agreement and shut down debate will lose credibility, undermine unity and drive good people away.

5. FLIRTING WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX IS HARMLESS. Every leader must learn to avoid the sex trap. Avoid being alone with the opposite sex. Keep the door open if that’s unavoidable. Withhold frequent displays of physical affection. Refrain from frequent messaging. Avoid building emotional soul ties. Invest daily in your marriage.

6. I’M MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE PEOPLE AROUND ME. The danger with leadership is the tendency to think, “Because I’m the leader, I’m the important one and people should defer to me, honor me and recognize me.” Great leaders do not seek opportunities elevate themselves, they seek opportunities to elevate those around them.

Tuesday, July 11, 2023

20 life lessons a wise man would share…

1)No One is Perfect.

The quicker this is realized the faster you can get on with being excellent. Start every morning ready to fight harder than you did the day before and run further than you ever imagine.

2)Avoid over explaining yourself.

Be confident with who you are.

3)Keep balance in your life.

Write down what’s most important to you and show up. Sometimes we tend to do the things that are most important to us when it’s written down.

4)Play the hand you were dealt.

Have the courage to face challenges head on it builds character. Start looking for a way through instead of a way out.

5)Be a student of life.

Learn something new every day. The day you stop learning is the day you become obsolete so keep learning.

6)No Excuses.

Stop making excuses replace them with ways to do better. Excuses are a waste of time and energy.

7)Let others know where you Stand.

Be uncompromising and be up front when someone steps on your core values.

8)Never be afraid of a challenge.

You put on your shoes like every other man. Now it comes down to who wants it more.

9)Service to others.

Small, simple or important be a volunteer and give the very best of you.

10)Work like hell.

Everyone has a job to do so do it. Cross every “T” and dot every “I”.

11)Discover You.

Find your passion, life purpose, and take action.

12)Don’t take it Personal.

Don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself self confidence shows that you’re comfortable in your own skin.

13)Manage your time.

Our situation and environment is ever changing so be careful not to confuse the things that are urgent with the things that are important. Look for time wasters and eliminate them.

14)Ask for help.

Life can be tough remember you never have to do it alone.

15)Do your homework.

Know what you getting into before you start. Doing your homework reduces uncertainty and fear.

16)Day Dream Often.

On the weekend when you are relaxing embrace a day dream.

Tips on the rules of living with people:

1. When you meet young people - INSPIRE THEM.

2. When you meet children - EDUCATE THEM.

3. When you meet old people - HELP THEM.

4. When you meet wise people - STUDY THEM.

5. When you meet leaders - HONOUR THEM.

6. When you meet foolish people - AVOID THEM.

7. When you meet humble people - TREASURE THEM.

8. When you meet arrogant people - IGNORE THEM.

9. When you meet gracious people - EMULATE THEM.

10. When you meet aspirational people - ELEVATE THEM.

11. When you meet strong people - SUPPORT THEM.

12. When you meet godly people - BLESS THEM.

13. When you meet elderly people - RESPECT THEM.

14. When you meet weak people - STRENGTHEN THEM.

15. When you meet hardworking people - ENCOURAGE THEM.

16. When you meet kind people - ESTEEM THEM.

17. When you meet Honest people -

PROMOTE THEM.

18. When you meet virtuous people - REWARD THEM.

19. When you meety evil people - EVADE THEM.

20. And in all situation “Watch, Pray and wish everyone well.

1. Dr. Ben Carson said, "I struggled academically throughout elementary school yet became the best neurosurgeon in the world in 1987."

LESSON: Struggling is a sign that you are on a verge of success. Don't quit yet.

2. Bill Gates said, "I didn't even complete my university education but became the world's richest man."

LESSON: School does not make you rich. School is only supposed to polish what will make you rich, not make you rich.

3. Christiano Ronaldo said, "I told my father that we would be very rich but he couldn't believe me. I made it a reality."

LESSON: Your words rule your life. If you mean what you have said, each word will come to pass. You get what you say.

4. Hear Lionel Messi!, "I used to serve tea at a shop to support my football training and still became one of the world's best footballers."

LESSON: Believe in your dream. Don't let your pain tell you how your future will look like.

5. Steve Jobs penned, "I used to sleep on the floor in my friends' rooms, returning coke bottles for food, money, and getting weekly free meals at a local temple, I later on founded Apple Company."

LESSON: That you are small today doesn't mean you will be small tomorrow. Keep trusting God.

6. Former British PM, Tony Blair said & I quote, "My teachers used to call me a failure, but I became a Prime Minister."

LESSON: Don't let someone else's opinions of you become your reality.

7. Bishop David Oyedepo said, "I started Living Faith Church from a lawn tennis court with three members only & preached prosperity. Many of my friends criticised me, but today we have the largest church auditorium in the world & two world-class universities."

LESSON: Believe in yourself even if no one does & never think of quitting.

8. Nelson Mandela said, "I was in prison for 27 years & still became president."

LESSON: You can be anything you want to be no matter where you have been or what you have been through.

9.REECE "I drove a taxi to finance my university education but today I'm a billionaire."

LESSON: Don't let your past decide the kind of future you need to have.

10. Harland Sanders, Founder of KFC said, "I was on the verge of suicide when an Idea of opening a restaurant hit me after I retired as a cook in the Navy."

LESSON: Nothing is ever too late. "Too late" is a language of failures. Your future can begin at any age. Don't ever let AGE limit you.

11. Aliko Dangote said, "I worked for my uncle since I was a small boy, people looked down on me. I later on took a loan from my uncle to open a tiny shop. I worked hard to make ends meet. Now I am the richest Man in Africa.

LESSON: Failures or limitations of the past have no control over the greatness in you. To him that believes, all things are possible.

12. Barack Hussein Obama said, I am a son of a black immigrant from Kenya, I graduated from Harvard and later on became a Senator in Chicago. I was also the President of the most powerful nation on Earth.

LESSON: Never design your life like a garden where anyone can walk in and out. Design it like the sky where everyone aspires to reach!

13. Arnold Swarzzenegger said, I traveled to America in search of financial independence when I was 15yrs old. I became the world's strongest man 7 times and Mr Universe. I then got my Economics degree, then I became one of Hollywood's best actors before I was voted twice as governor of California."

LESSON: Don't wait for everybody to believe in your ability and dreams.

BE SILENT

WHEN TO BE SILENT

1. Be silent - in the heat of

anger.

2. Be silent - when you don't

have all the facts.

3. Be silent - when you

haven't verified the story.

4. Be silent - if your words

will offend a weaker Person.

5. Be silent - when it is time

to listen.

6. Be silent - when you are

tempted to make light of

holy things.

7. Be silent - when you are

tempted to joke about sin.

8. Be silent - if you would be

ashamed of your word later.

9. Be silent - if your words

would convey the wrong

impression.

10. Be silent - if the issue is

none of your business.

11. Be silent - when you are

tempted to tell an outright lie.

12. Be silent - if your words

will damage someone else's reputation.

13. Be silent - if your words

will damage a friendship.

14. Be silent - when you are

feeling critical.

15. Be silent - if you can't

say it without screaming.

16. Be silent - if your words

will be a poor reflection

of your friends and family.

17. Be silent - if you may

have to eat your words

later.

18. Be silent - if you have

already said it more

than one time.

Monday, July 10, 2023

Top 12 Lessons learned From Book: “12 Rules For Life“

1) Stand up straight with your shoulders back

🟠 The poor and stressed always die first, and in greater numbers. They are also much more susceptible to non-Infectious diseases. When the aristocracy catches a cold, as it is said, the working class dies of pneumonia.

2) Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping

🟠 People are better at properly administering

prescription medication to their pets than to

themselves. Consider your future and think, ‘What might my life look like if I were caring for myself properly?

3) Make friends with people who want the best for you.

🟠 Friendship is a reciprocal arrangement, you are not morally obliged to support someone who is making the world a worse place. Quite the opposite, you should choose people who want things to be better, not worse.

4)Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today

🟠 You’ve got specific problems. Run your own race and avoid peering in the lane next to you.

5) Don't let your children do anything that makes you dislike them

🟠 Many parents want their children’s friendship above all, and are willing to sacrifice respect to get it. That’s not good.

6) Set your house in order before you criticize the world

🟠 Consider your circumstances, start small, have you taken full advantage of the opportunities presented to you? Start to stop doing something that you know to be wrong.

7) Pursue what is meaningful, not what is expedient

🟠 Follow your impulses and live for the moment.We should delay our gratification in service of what is meaningful. That Means that something may be better attained in the future by giving up something of value in the present.

8) Tell the truth or at least don’t lie

🟠 Those are not merely two different choices. They are different pathways through life.

If you don’t reveal yourself to others, you can’t reveal yourself to yourself.

9) Assume the person you are listening to knows something that you don’t.

🟠 If you believe every person can teach you something, you open yourself up to growth and learning in every encounter with another human being.

10)Be precise in your speech

🟠 Specify the problem, is to admit that it exists, which can be confronting.

11) Don't bother the children when they are

skateboarding

🟠 As you age without maturing, you will become worthless and bitter, but you will never have to take any responsibility, and everything you do that’s wrong will always be someone else’s fault.

12) Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street

🟠 Wonder of being might make up for the ineradicable suffering the accompanies it. Noticing is better than thinking.

You can't improve if you don't know what you're doing wrong.

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Sunday, July 9, 2023

Top 5 Japanese Techniques to Overcome Laziness:

1. Ikigai

Discover your purpose in life.

Determine the reason you wake up each morning.

Choose something that aligns with your strengths, passions, and the needs of the world.

This is what gives life meaning.

2. Kaizen

Focus on small improvements every day.

You don’t have to do everything at once, just aim to progress little by little.

3. Pomodoro Technique

Work for 25 minutes, take a break for 5, then repeat.

This helps you stay focused and avoid burnout.

It’s a game-changer for productivity!

4. Hara Hachi Bu

Don’t stuff yourself!

Eat until you’re 80% full and you’ll feel more energized throughout the day.

Plus, you won’t have to unbutton your pants after lunch.

5. Shoshin

Approach tasks with a beginner’s mindset. Don’t worry about being perfect or having all the answers.

Just be open to learning and trying new things.

Here’s the best part —

You don’t need to learn ALL these techniques at once.

Just focus on getting a tiny bit better every day (Kaizen)

While staying positive in your journey. (Shoshin)

Saturday, July 8, 2023

𝟐𝟏 𝐛𝐚𝐬𝐢𝐜 𝐡𝐚𝐛𝐢𝐭𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐦 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝟔 𝐦𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐡𝐬..

𝑻𝒐𝒅𝒂𝒚'𝒔 𝑰𝒏𝒔𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕

𝟐𝟏 𝐛𝐚𝐬𝐢𝐜 𝐡𝐚𝐛𝐢𝐭𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐦 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝟔 𝐦𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐡𝐬...

1. Write down 3 things you are grateful for Start with one if need be.

2. Say "No" once a week - If you say "Yes"

to everything, you'll never have time for

yourself.

3. Exercise for a minute when you wake up. Do 30 pushups or plank. This will get your blood flowing.

4. Invest in experiences - Do not use all your money on buying materialistic things, use some money to buy a new 'experience' It will fill your heart.

5. Organize your home. A clear home A clear mind. =

6. Give things away - Things that you haven't touched in months, give them away.

7. Manage your money - Simply make an Excel sheet on how much money you are bringing in and how much you are spending.

8. Stand up every hour you are awake - It's easier said than done, but you will get used to it as you do it daily.

9. Ask open-ended questions - It helps keep a conversation going.

10. Follow this simple proverb, "When we have no head, we have legs." - Accept what's done is done.

11. Turn off notifications - You'll be able

to accomplish more.

12. Prepare your clothes the night before so you don't waste any time in the morning when your mind is more active.

13. Avoid watching the news all the time.

14. Drink more water - Gives you more

energy and improves your mental clarity.

15. Discover one new thing a month - This will help you keep your childlike curiosity alive.

16. Make your bed - "If you want to change the world, start off by making your bed." Admiral William

17. Spend a minute a day with yourself.

No phone or any devices, just you and

your thoughts.

18. Ask yourself whether what you're doing is worth it.

19. If a task takes 2 minutes or less to do, do it right away - Prevents you from procrastinating.

20. Take care of your posture.

Bad posture

Pain in the long run

21. Read for 15 minutes a day - "Leaders are readers." Make this a habit, and read books that will improve your life.

Extra - Advantage Point:

BELIEVE in GOD, Believe in YOURSELF - Read the word of GOD and PRAY!

𝟭𝟰 𝗣𝘀𝘆𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗼𝗴𝘆 𝗛𝗮𝗰𝗸𝘀 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗞𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗧𝗼 𝗖𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗹 𝗔𝗻𝘆 𝗦𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻.

𝟭𝟰 𝗣𝘀𝘆𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗼𝗴𝘆 𝗛𝗮𝗰𝗸𝘀 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗞𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗧𝗼 𝗖𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗹 𝗔𝗻𝘆 𝗦𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻.

1. When someone answers your questions partially. Wait. Don't interrupt.

Chances are high that they will complete the answer when you say nothing

2. When you want to get something from someone, frame it as an offer/opportunity instead of a request.

Anyone will be ready to accept an offer/opportunity.

3. When you meet people, notice their eye color while you smile at them.

Don't mention anything about it. It's a good way to make sure that you really look them in the eyes.

4. A person's name is the sweetest sound in the world to that person.

To make a person feel very special, remember and repeat their name.

5. Have zero expectations when you are first trying something new, it prevents disappointment.

6. To judge a person's character, notice the way they treat people - who can't do anything for them.

7. After you state your position in a negotiation.

Wait for a while. If you continue to speak, you are not speaking in your favor.

8. Chewing gum while doing nerve-racking things calm your brain.

It somehow gets your brain to calm down.

9. When you are learning something, teach someone about it.

You will remember it easily and explore more in the process of teaching.

10. Most people's favorite subject to talk about is themselves.

If you don't know what to talk about, or have awkward silence, just ask them questions.

11. Emotional expression causes emotion.

If you force yourself to smile, your mood will actually improve.

12. Stand up straight. It makes you look more confident and you will actually feel more confident.

13. With kids, frame things in a way that always gives them a choice. It makes them feel like they are in control.

For eg., "Do you want to wear red shirt or blue shirt? "

Either way, they know it's time to put on a shirt.

14. When asking for favours use the world "because". No matter how simple the reason.

The word "because" makes them think it must be okay because there is a reason.

அந்த நாள் இனிதாகும்

பனிரெண்டாம் நூற்றாண்டில் ஈரானில் வாழ்ந்த 'மௌலானா இம்தியாஸ் கரீமி' என்கிற சூஃபி கீழ்க்கண்ட விஷயத்தை அதிகாலை எழுந்ததும் உங்களுக்குள் மூன்று தடவை கூறிக்கொள்ளுங்கள்..அந்த நாள் இனிதாகும் என்கிறார்..

*நான் ரசிப்பதை எல்லோரும் ரசிக்க மாட்டார்கள்

நான் நம்புவதை எல்லோரும் நம்ப மாட்டார்கள்

நான் வெறுப்பதை எல்லோரும் வெறுக்க மாட்டார்கள்

*என்னுடைய ஆச்சர்யங்கள், புனிதங்கள், தீர்வுகள் எல்லாமே யார் வழியாகவோ எனக்குள் வந்தவை அல்லது நானே சுயமாக அடைந்தவை; அவற்றை இந்த உலகம் ஆமோதித்தாக வேண்டும் என்று எந்தக் கட்டாயமும் இல்லை..

*என் அனுபவங்கள் எனக்குக் கடல் போன்றவை; ஆனால் இந்த பிரபஞ்சத்தில் நானே சிறு துளிதான்; எனக்கு மட்டும் கடலாக இருக்கும் சிறு துளி; இதுபோன்ற பல கடல்கள் ஒன்று சேர்ந்து வாழும் சிறு துளியே நம் பூமி..ஆகவே என் அனுபவங்களைப் பிறருக்கான வேதமாகவோ , பாடமாகவோ பரிந்துரைக்க மாட்டேன்..

*நான் சாப்பிடப் பிடிக்காத அல்லது சாப்பிட முடியாத பன்றியை வேறொருவன் உண்ணும் போது சலனமின்றி பசுவைப் புசிக்கிற மனோபாவத்தை எனக்குத் தந்தருள் அல்லாவே!!அதே பக்குவம் என் இந்திய நண்பனுக்கும் வாய்க்கப் பெற்று அவன் வங்காளத்து மீனை ஜல புஷ்பமாக உண்ணும் பேரருள் வாய்க்கப் பெறட்டும்..

*யார் மீதாவது நான் சுட்டுவிரல் நீட்டும் முன் மொத்த விரல்களையும் என்னை நோக்கி நீட்டிக் கொள்கிற மனத்தெளிவை இந்த விடிகாலை எனக்கு நல்கட்டும்..

*நான் ஆசியனாக இருந்தால் ஆப்பிரிக்கனை..இஸ்லாமியனாக இருந்தால் யூதனை..ஆணாக இருந்தால் பெண்ணை..கிறிஸ்தவனாக இருந்தால் அவிசுவாசியை...இந்திய பிராமணனாக இருந்தால் மலம் அள்ளுபவனை என் இடத்தில் வைத்துப் பார்க்கிற புத்தியை நான் வேதத்திலிருந்து பெறவில்லையெனில் எதற்கிந்தப் பாராயணம்??

*நான் நம்பும் உன்னை நிந்திப்பவன் வேறு எதையோ நம்புகிறான்..அது உன்னைப் போன்ற இன்னொரு கடவுளாகவோ அல்லது எதுவுமற்ற அவன் மனதின் தன்முனைப்பாகவோ கூட இருக்கலாம்..அவன் விரிக்கும் வலையில் உன்னைப் பலி கொடுக்கும் முட்டாள்தனத்திற்கு என்னை ஆட்படுத்தி விடாமல் இருக்கச் செய்வாய் கருணையாளனே..'அளவற்ற அருளாளன்' என்று வர்ணித்த அதே வாயால் எவனுக்காகவோ உன் கையில் ஆயுதத்தைத் தூக்கித் தருவதோ, அல்லது நான் தூக்கியிருக்கும் ஆயுதத்தில் உன் பெயர் எழுதுவதோ உனக்கு உவப்பானதில்லையென்று விளங்கிக் கொண்டிருக்கிறேன் சத்தியனே!!!

₹இவற்றை எல்லாம் அரைதூக்கத்தின் தொடர்ச்சியாய் நிகழும் இந்தப் பிரார்த்தனை வழி புரிந்து கொள்வதற்கு கொஞ்சம் மூளையும், புரிந்து கொண்ட பின் எனக்குப் பிடித்தமான வழியில் எவர் குறித்தும் கவலையுறாமல் நடப்பதற்கு கொஞ்சம் ஈரமான இருதயமும், அந்தப் பாதையில் போகிற போது வந்து விழும் வசைகளையும், தாக்குதல்களையும் ஆன்மீக மனம் கொண்டு தாங்குவதற்கு எஃகு போன்ற உடலையும் தந்தருள்வாய் பெருந்தன்மையாளனே !!!!

தமிழாக்கம் : மானசீகன்

பின்குறிப்பு:மௌலானா இம்தியாஸ் கரீமி யார் என்று கூகுளில் தேட வேண்டாம்..அவர் என்னுடைய கடந்த பிறவி..பாவம் புகழடையாமலே இறந்து விட்டார்..நன்றி..

* மானசீகன் *

Thursday, July 6, 2023

Dare to Be

When a new day begins, dare to smile gratefully.

When there is darkness, dare to be the first to shine a light.

When there is injustice, dare to be the first to condemn it.

When something seems difficult, dare to do it anyway.

When life seems to beat you down, dare to fight back.

When there seems to be no hope, dare to find some.

When you’re feeling tired, dare to keep going.

When times are tough, dare to be tougher.

When love hurts you, dare to love again.

When someone is hurting, dare to help them heal.

When another is lost, dare to help them find the way.

When a friend falls, dare to be the first to extend a hand.

When you cross paths with another, dare to make them smile.

When you feel great, dare to help someone else feel great too.

When the day has ended, dare to feel as you’ve done your best.

Dare to be the best you can –

At all times, Dare to be! ~Steve Maraboli

(Book: Life, the Truth, and Being Free https://amzn.to/3PIZvLc)

(Art: 'The Florist', 1930 by William Bruce Ellis Ranken)

Wednesday, July 5, 2023

The Art of Reading Minds” is a must-read for anyone curious about the intricacies of human psychology

“The Art of Reading Minds” is a must-read for anyone curious about the intricacies of human psychology and those who wish to master the art of understanding others on a deeper level.

Key Learnings :

1. Understanding Nonverbal Cues

2. Cultivating Empathy

3. Context and Interpretation

4. Cultural Sensitivity

5. Intuition and Emotional Intelligence

6. Ethical Considerations

7. Personal Growth and Connection

8. Practical Techniques and Strategies

It’s very important book, I feel I must emphasise more on each learning on my way with examples, I am sure this will be an exciting one for you to read, let’s start reading more ..

Understanding nonverbal cues is a valuable skill for decoding the thoughts and emotions of others. Here are a few examples of nonverbal cues and their potential meanings:

1. Facial Expressions:

• Smiling: Indicates happiness, friendliness, or agreement.

• Frowning: Suggests sadness, disapproval, or confusion.

• Raised eyebrows: Can convey surprise, curiosity, or disbelief.

2. Body Language:

• Crossing arms: Often indicates defensiveness, disagreement, or discomfort.

• Leaning forward: Signifies interest, engagement, or attentiveness.

• Avoiding eye contact: May indicate shyness, discomfort, or dishonesty.

3. Gestures:

• Nodding: Shows agreement, understanding, or affirmation.

• Shaking the head: Indicates disagreement, disbelief, or refusal.

• Pointing: Draws attention to something or expresses a specific direction.

4. Posture:

• Slumped shoulders and downcast gaze: Suggests sadness, low confidence, or defeat.

• Upright posture with shoulders back: Reflects confidence, attentiveness, or assertiveness.

• Closed body posture (crossed legs, tightly crossed arms): Implies defensiveness, guardedness, or discomfort.

5. Proxemics (Personal Space):

• Standing too close: Can signify intimacy, aggression, or intrusiveness.

• Keeping distance: Indicates respect for personal boundaries or discomfort.

6. Touch:

• Handshakes: Often associated with greetings, introductions, or establishing rapport.

• Hugs: Typically express warmth, affection, or comfort.

• A firm pat on the back: Indicates encouragement, congratulations, or reassurance.

Cultivating empathy is a powerful way to connect with others and understand their thoughts and emotions. Here are some examples of how to cultivate empathy:

1. Active Listening: Practice fully engaging with others during conversations. Pay attention to their words, tone of voice, and nonverbal cues. Show genuine interest and avoid interrupting. Reflect back what they're saying to ensure understanding.

Example: When a friend is sharing their struggles at work, listen attentively without judgment, and offer supportive responses that acknowledge their feelings.

2. Perspective-Taking: Put yourself in someone else's shoes and try to see the world from their perspective. Consider their background, experiences, and emotions. This helps you understand their motivations and challenges.

Example: Imagine how a colleague might feel after receiving criticism from a supervisor. Consider their perspective before offering advice or support.

3. Emotional Validation: Validate and acknowledge someone's emotions without dismissing or minimizing them. Let them know that their feelings are heard and understood, even if you don't necessarily agree with their point of view.

Example: If a family member expresses frustration about a situation, say, "I can understand why you feel that way. It sounds like it's been challenging for you."

4. Practicing Curiosity: Show genuine curiosity about others' experiences and feelings. Ask open-ended questions to encourage them to share more. Be open-minded and non-judgmental in your approach.

Example: Ask a friend who has a different cultural background to share their experiences and traditions, and genuinely listen to their stories.

5. Empathetic Body Language: Use nonverbal cues to convey empathy and understanding. Maintain eye contact, nod to show you're actively listening, and adopt an open and relaxed posture.

Example: When comforting a friend who is going through a difficult time, offer a comforting touch on the shoulder or a warm hug, if appropriate and welcomed.

6. Empathy in Conflict Resolution: During conflicts or disagreements, make an effort to understand the other person's perspective and emotions. Validate their feelings and seek common ground for resolution.

Example: When resolving a disagreement with a coworker, acknowledge their concerns and express your understanding of their position before working together to find a mutually beneficial solution.

Context and interpretation play a crucial role in understanding others' thoughts and emotions. Here are some examples of how context and interpretation can shape our understanding:

1. Tone of Voice:

- Context: A person's tone of voice can vary depending on the situation. It can convey different emotions such as anger, excitement, or sarcasm.

- Interpretation: Understanding the context helps interpret the intended meaning behind the tone. For instance, a sarcastic tone in a friendly conversation may be interpreted differently than the same tone during a serious discussion.

2. Body Language:

- Context: Observing someone's body language provides additional context to their words. Different body postures, gestures, and facial expressions convey emotions and attitudes.

- Interpretation: By considering the context, such as the situation and relationship dynamics, you can interpret the underlying emotions or intentions behind the observed body language. For example, crossed arms may indicate defensiveness, but in a cold environment, it could simply be a physical response to feeling cold.

3. Cultural Differences:

- Context: Cultural backgrounds and norms influence how people express themselves, interpret emotions, and communicate nonverbally.

- Interpretation: Understanding the cultural context is essential for accurate interpretation. For instance, direct eye contact may be considered respectful in some cultures, while in others, it may be seen as confrontational or disrespectful.

4. Environmental Factors:

- Context: The physical environment and external factors can influence people's behavior and emotional state.

- Interpretation: Taking into account the environmental context helps interpret someone's emotions and actions. For instance, someone appearing restless or distracted during a meeting might be experiencing stress due to an impending deadline.

5. Previous Experiences:

- Context: Past experiences and relationships with someone shape our interpretations of their behaviors and emotions.

- Interpretation: Recognizing the influence of previous experiences allows for a more nuanced interpretation. For instance, if a friend appears quiet and withdrawn, knowing that they recently experienced a loss helps interpret their behavior as grief or sadness.

Cultural sensitivity is crucial for navigating diverse social interactions and avoiding misunderstandings. Here are some examples of cultural sensitivity in practice:

1. Nonverbal Communication:

- Cultural Norms: Recognize that nonverbal cues, such as eye contact, personal space, or gestures, can vary across cultures. Avoid making assumptions or misinterpreting these cues based on your own cultural background.

- Adaptation: When interacting with individuals from different cultures, be aware of their cultural norms and adjust your nonverbal communication accordingly. For instance, some cultures value more personal space during conversations, so maintaining a respectful distance is important.

2. Language and Communication:

- Language Barriers: Be patient and understanding when communicating with someone who speaks a different language. Use clear and simple language, avoid slang or idioms, and consider using visual aids or gestures to enhance understanding.

- Translation and Interpretation: Respect the importance of accurate translation and interpretation in cross-cultural communication. Seek professional assistance if needed to ensure clear and culturally sensitive communication.

3. Customs and Traditions:

- Cultural Practices: Familiarize yourself with the customs, traditions, and etiquette of different cultures. Respect and appreciate the diversity of practices, including greetings, dining etiquette, or religious observances.

- Sensitivity: When participating in cultural events or visiting religious sites, show respect by following appropriate dress codes, removing shoes when required, or refraining from behavior that may be considered disrespectful.

4. Values and Beliefs:

- Religions and Belief Systems: Recognize and respect the religious and spiritual beliefs of others. Avoid making derogatory or insensitive comments about different faiths or practices.

- Worldviews: Be open-minded and receptive to different perspectives and worldviews. Respectfully engage in discussions about cultural beliefs and avoid imposing your own values or judgments.

5. Celebrations and Festivals:

- Festive Observances: Show respect for cultural celebrations and festivals by being aware of their significance and avoiding cultural appropriation or stereotypes. Appreciate the opportunity to learn and participate while understanding the appropriate boundaries.

- Sensitivity to Dietary Restrictions: Be mindful of dietary restrictions or preferences related to cultural or religious practices. When hosting or attending gatherings, offer food options that accommodate diverse dietary needs.

Cultural sensitivity involves recognizing and appreciating the diversity of cultures and adapting our behavior and communication to show respect and understanding. It promotes inclusivity, reduces misunderstandings, and fosters harmonious interactions in multicultural settings.

Intuition and emotional intelligence are essential elements in understanding others and forming meaningful connections. Here are examples of intuition and emotional intelligence in action:

1. Intuitive Understanding of Emotions:

- Sensing Unspoken Feelings: Intuition allows you to pick up on subtle emotional cues and understand someone's underlying feelings, even if they haven't explicitly expressed them. For instance, sensing that a friend is feeling down despite their attempts to appear cheerful.

2. Empathetic Responses:

- Providing Comfort: Emotional intelligence enables you to respond empathetically when someone is going through a difficult time. You intuitively understand their emotional needs and offer comforting words, a listening ear, or a supportive gesture.

3. Recognizing Emotional Triggers:

- Self-awareness: Emotional intelligence involves being attuned to your own emotions and recognizing what triggers specific reactions within yourself. By understanding your own triggers, you can respond more effectively in emotional situations.

4. Empathetic Listening:

- Active Listening: Emotional intelligence involves actively listening to others and giving them your full attention. Through active listening, you pick up on not only the words spoken but also the emotions conveyed, providing a safe space for them to express themselves.

5. Managing Emotions:

- Self-Regulation: Emotional intelligence helps you manage your own emotions effectively. You can identify and regulate negative emotions like anger or frustration, allowing for more constructive and empathetic responses in challenging situations.

6. Building Rapport:

- Establishing Trust: Intuition and emotional intelligence enable you to quickly establish rapport with others by sensing their needs, demonstrating empathy, and creating a safe and supportive environment. This fosters trust and deepens connections.

7. Conflict Resolution:

- Understanding Perspectives: Emotional intelligence allows you to understand different perspectives and emotions involved in conflicts. By intuitively grasping the emotions underlying the conflict, you can facilitate understanding and guide towards resolution.

8. Nonverbal Cues and Microexpressions:

- Intuitive Interpretation: Emotional intelligence helps in intuitively interpreting nonverbal cues and microexpressions, such as slight changes in facial expressions or body language. This enables a deeper understanding of others' emotions and intentions.

By cultivating intuition and emotional intelligence, individuals can navigate complex social situations, build strong relationships, and foster empathy and understanding. These skills contribute to effective communication, conflict resolution, and overall emotional well-being.

Ethical considerations are essential when engaging in activities that involve understanding others' thoughts and emotions. Here are examples of ethical considerations in interpersonal interactions:

1. Consent and Boundaries:

- Respecting Boundaries: Obtain consent before attempting to delve into someone's personal thoughts or emotions. Respect their boundaries and only engage in mind-reading or emotional exploration if they are comfortable and willing to participate.

2. Privacy and Confidentiality:

- Confidentiality: Maintain confidentiality when someone shares personal information with you. Respect their trust by keeping their thoughts and emotions private, unless there is a legal or ethical obligation to disclose.

3. Non-Manipulation:

- Honesty and Transparency: Use your understanding of others' thoughts and emotions ethically, avoiding manipulation or coercion. Be honest and transparent in your interactions, and do not exploit your knowledge for personal gain or to deceive others.

4. Non-Judgmental Attitude:

- Avoiding Prejudice: Approach others' thoughts and emotions with an open mind and without judgment. Recognize and challenge any biases or prejudices that may influence your interpretations.

5. Beneficial Intent:

- Positive Impact: Use your ability to understand others' thoughts and emotions for positive purposes, such as building trust, promoting empathy, resolving conflicts, or supporting personal growth. Strive to make a positive impact on others' well-being.

6. Cultural Sensitivity:

- Respect for Diversity: Be aware of cultural differences and avoid making assumptions or generalizations based on your own cultural background. Show respect for diverse perspectives and adapt your approach accordingly.

7. Informed Decision Making:

- Consider Consequences: Reflect on the potential consequences of your actions when using your understanding of others' thoughts and emotions. Ensure that your decisions and interventions are well-considered and have a beneficial impact.

8. Empathy and Compassion:

- Genuine Empathy: Approach others with genuine empathy and compassion. Seek to understand and support their well-being, respecting their emotions and experiences.

Ethical considerations ensure that the understanding of others' thoughts and emotions is conducted responsibly and in a manner that respects their autonomy, privacy, and dignity. By adhering to these ethical principles, we can create a more empathetic, trusting, and respectful interpersonal environment.

Personal growth and connection go hand in hand, as they are interrelated processes that can enrich our lives and relationships. Here are examples of how personal growth contributes to connection with others:

1. Self-Awareness:

- Personal Reflection: Engaging in self-reflection and introspection allows us to gain a deeper understanding of our own thoughts, emotions, and values. This self-awareness enhances our ability to connect with others authentically by being more in tune with ourselves.

2. Emotional Intelligence:

- Empathetic Understanding: Developing emotional intelligence enables us to better understand and manage our own emotions while empathetically connecting with the emotions of others. This enhances our ability to relate to others on a deeper level and build stronger connections.

3. Communication Skills:

- Active Listening: Improving communication skills, such as active listening and effective expression, fosters deeper connections. It allows us to truly hear and understand others, leading to more meaningful and supportive interactions.

4. Empathy and Compassion:

- Putting Yourself in Others' Shoes: Cultivating empathy and compassion allows us to genuinely connect with others by understanding their perspectives and emotions. It creates a sense of shared understanding and fosters a supportive and caring connection.

5. Personal Development:

- Pursuing Personal Passions: Engaging in personal growth by pursuing our passions and interests not only brings us fulfillment but also allows us to connect with like-minded individuals who share similar interests. It provides a platform for meaningful connections and shared experiences.

6. Vulnerability and Authenticity:

- Sharing Authentic Self: Embracing vulnerability and showing up as our authentic selves deepens connections. When we are genuine and transparent with others, it creates an environment of trust, openness, and acceptance.

7. Learning from Others:

- Embracing Different Perspectives: Seeking out diverse experiences and learning from others broadens our understanding of the world. Engaging with individuals from different backgrounds, cultures, and perspectives fosters personal growth and enriches our connections with others.

8. Supporting Others' Growth:

- Encouraging and Inspiring: Actively supporting and encouraging the personal growth of others creates meaningful connections. Celebrating their achievements and providing guidance or inspiration promotes a sense of connection and shared growth.

Through personal growth, we enhance our ability to connect with others by understanding ourselves better, cultivating empathy, improving communication, and fostering authenticity. These examples demonstrate how personal growth and connection go hand in hand, contributing to more meaningful and fulfilling relationships.

Practical techniques and strategies can help us navigate various aspects of life and achieve our goals. Here are some examples of practical techniques and strategies:

1. Time Management:

- Prioritization: Make a to-do list or use a productivity app to prioritize tasks based on their importance and deadlines. This helps you focus on what truly matters and manage your time effectively.

- Time Blocking: Allocate specific time blocks for different activities or tasks to maintain focus and minimize distractions.

2. Goal Setting:

- SMART Goals: Use the SMART framework (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound) to set clear and actionable goals. Breaking them down into smaller milestones makes them more attainable.

- Visualizing Success: Visualize yourself achieving your goals to enhance motivation and clarify your desired outcomes.

3. Mindfulness and Stress Management:

- Deep Breathing: Practice deep breathing exercises to reduce stress and promote relaxation during challenging moments.

- Mindful Awareness: Cultivate mindfulness by paying attention to the present moment without judgment. This helps reduce anxiety and improves overall well-being.

4. Effective Communication:

- Active Listening: Give your full attention to the speaker, maintain eye contact, and listen attentively. Clarify understanding by paraphrasing or asking questions.

- "I" Statements: Use "I" statements to express your feelings and needs, promoting clearer communication and reducing defensiveness during conflicts.

5. Problem-Solving:

- Break it Down: Break complex problems into smaller, more manageable parts. Address each part step by step to facilitate problem-solving.

- Brainstorming: Generate a list of potential solutions without judgment or evaluation. This encourages creativity and opens up possibilities.

6. Conflict Resolution:

- Win-Win Approach: Seek mutually beneficial solutions in conflicts by actively listening, understanding different perspectives, and finding common ground.

- Compromise and Collaboration: Look for compromises that address the needs and concerns of all parties involved. Collaborative problem-solving leads to more sustainable resolutions.

7. Self-Care:

- Establishing Routines: Create consistent self-care routines, such as exercise, adequate sleep, and healthy eating, to maintain physical and mental well-being.

- Setting Boundaries: Clearly define and communicate your personal boundaries to protect your time, energy, and emotional well-being.

8. Continuous Learning:

- Lifelong Learning: Engage in continuous learning by reading books, taking courses, attending workshops, or seeking mentorship. Embrace new knowledge and skills to support personal and professional growth.

These practical techniques and strategies can be adapted to various areas of life, helping us manage our time, set goals, communicate effectively, resolve conflicts, take care of ourselves, and continue growing. Experiment with different techniques and find the ones that work best for you in different situations.

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8 POINTS TO MASTER A SKILL

1. Set a clear goal: Be specific about what you want to achieve. Set a target and outline a plan on how to get there.

2. Practice consistently: Practice is key. Establish a schedule and stick to it. Consistency is more important than the amount of time you spend practicing.

3. Learn from experts: Find someone who is an expert in the skill you want to master and learn from them. Take classes, read books and articles, watch tutorials, and observe their techniques.

4. Focus on your weakness: Identify your weak spots and focus on improving them. Don't neglect your strengths, but focus more attention on your weaknesses.

5. Seek feedback: Get feedback from people who are knowledgeable in the field or who have already mastered the skill. Use that feedback constructively to improve your techniques.

6. Be patient: Mastering a skill takes time, so be patient and persistent. Don't expect to be an expert overnight and don't get discouraged by setbacks. Keep practicing and persevering.

7. Embrace failure: Don't be afraid to fail. Failure is a natural part of the learning process. Learn from your mistakes and use them to improve.

8. Visualize success: Imagine yourself successfully performing the skill. Visualization can help enhance your motivation and improve your performance.

6 LAWS TO WIN IN LIFE

1.Stop telling people your plans

When you over share, you hurt your own progress. Keep things private and win.

2.Know when to say no

Strong people put their own well being before pleasing others. Practice saying no more often.

3. Make a decision, and commit to it

Too many people lack discipline and go back to their toxic patterns. Make a decision to change, and stick to it.

4. There is power in numbers

Nobody has made it in life all by themselves. You need a team that uplifts and supports you. Stop being a lone wolf.

5. Starve your distractions, feed your focus

Focus on your goals instead of

cheap dopamine. You will achieve anything you ever wanted.

6. Always provide value to others

There is only one secret to success: making other people's lives easier. In business and relationships, providing value will keep you their first priority.

20 UNSPOKEN RULES FOR MEN:

1. Always keep your word - if you make a promise, keep it.

2. Respect women - treat them with dignity and respect.

3. Take care of your appearance - dress appropriately and maintain good hygiene.

4. Be honest - don't lie or deceive others.

5. Show respect for elders - listen to their advice and guidance.

6. Be loyal - stand by your friends and family.

7. Be responsible - take ownership of your actions and their consequences.

8. Be self-sufficient - learn to take care of yourself.

9. Learn to forgive - holding grudges only hurts you in the long run.

10. Be humble - don't brag or boast about your accomplishments.

11. Be patient - good things come to those who wait.

12. Don't be a bully - treat others with kindness and compassion.

13. Be a good listener - pay attention to what others are saying.

14. Be a good communicator - express yourself clearly and effectively.

15. Be confident - believe in yourself and your abilities.

16. Act with integrity - do the right thing, even when no one is watching.

17. Be disciplined - have self-control and focus on your goals.

18. Show gratitude - appreciate the people and things in your life.

19. Be open-minded - consider different perspectives and ideas.

20. Be a lifelong learner - never stop growing and improving yourself.

Monday, July 3, 2023

5 WAYS TO KILL DIFFICULTIES IN YOUR LIFE

1. Accept the situation: Acknowledge the situation you are in and accept it. Denying or ignoring the problem won't make it go away. Acceptance helps you to remain calm and find a solution.

2. Focus on the solution: Instead of focusing on the problem, focus on finding a solution. If one solution doesn't work, try another until you find one that works.

3. Seek help: Don't be afraid to seek help. Talk to someone you trust, such as a friend, family member, or therapist. They can offer you support and advice.

4. Take care of yourself: Deal with stress by doing things you enjoy, such as exercising, meditating, or spending time in nature.

5. Learn from your experience: Every difficulty is an opportunity to learn. Reflect on what happened, what you learned, and how you can use this experience to become stronger and more resilient in the future.

𝐅𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐚𝐠𝐞 𝟏𝟖-𝟓𝟓, 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐛𝐞 𝐨𝐥𝐝 𝐞𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐭𝐨 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬…

1. Life doesn't wait for you to be okay. Get up everyday and keep pushing through.

2. Never force anyone to choose you. You'll learn the art to spend time alone

3. Master your emotions. A calm mind can handle any situation.

4. To avoid disappointment, you need to take people for who they're not for what you want them to be.

5. Everyone will show you who they're, just give them time

6. You're at peace with yourself when you mind your own business.

7. Ensure you take good care of yourself, if anything happens to you, the world will move on.

8. Nobody cares, work hard to get better everyday.

9. If you don't work to build your own dream, someone will hire you and give you a purpose.

10. Free yourself from the society's advice, most of them have no idea of what they're doing.

11. 30 years is too long to sit in an office being told what to do.

12. You shouldn't frequently take advice from people who're not where you want to be in life.

13. Life's is 100% better when no one know anything about you

14. You become 10x smarter when you quit the news and put politics out of your topics, unless it is your official occupation or it benefits you positively

15. You need to be smart enough to create your opportunities, don't wait for them to come to you.

MAY GOD BLESS YOUR HUSTLE 🙏❤️

10 PEICES OF ADVICE TO EVERY PERSON.

1. When respect is no longer there, find your way out. Although it is hard to start over, do not wait until you lose yourself in the process.

2. Do not chase love. Chase your dreams instead.

3. No one has the right to make you feel worthless. You are more than enough.

4. If someone really loves you, they will pursue you and will make real efforts.

5. Please know that you are beautiful together with your scars and imperfections.

6. You do not need to compare yourself to anyone. You have a different journey to take.

7. Your only competition is yourself. Hone your skills and be a better version of you.

8. If it fails, it is not love in the first place. True love bends but it never breaks.

9. Working hard is good but you have to prioritize your health. Find time to be with your family. They are the ones who will be there for you in your darkest days.

10. Prioritize yourself. Love yourself. It has long been overdue.