Life hacks

 Life hacks:

1. Don’t lend money to your family. Give it

2. Never shake a hand while sitting down.

3. Stop telling people more than they need to know.

4. Never eat the last piece of something you didn't buy.

5. Don't throw your friend under the bus to impress someone.

6. Never insult the cooking when you are the guest.

7. Don't use the urinal next to an occupied one.

8. Don't take out your phone during a conversation.

9. Never take credit for work you didn't do.

10. Listen, nod, and most of all make eye contact.

11. Don't make fun of your friend in front of his kids.

12. Never let emotions overpower you.

13. Never beg for a relationship

14. Dress well no matter what the occasion

15. Never kick a man when he is already down 

Inspiring Contents

The difference between being Nice and being Kind

 The difference between being Nice and being Kind

One of my female friends was telling me the other day how kind her newfound boyfriend was, 

She was full of emotions and beaming with excitement as she share the story with me.

The guy took her to one of the most expensive eateries in town, bought her fine clothes, and blah blah blah.

This girl have an exam the day they went out, his kind guy paid somebody to help her out because he need to be with her that day.

I told her his guy was only nice not kind.

niceness involves doing something that is pleasing or agreeable, taking the girl out is pleasing to her but not helpful. By contrast, kindness is doing something that is helpful to others, or that comes from a place of benevolence.

Asking you to leave your exam in other to spend money on you is not kindness, 

Being nice is a result of social conditioning and expectations of how we should act. In many ways, these unofficial rules are a good thing, leading us to be polite and helping us avoid conflict. Yet too often, niceness is prioritized over true kindness — which can be damaging and destructive.

For instance, a nice person may tell a neighbor that they are sorry that they are sick — while a kind person will make effort to make sure the neighbor gets better by buying drugs of getting them food.

Being kind doesn't always mean being nice, the boy friend of my friend might compel her to sit for her exam instead of taking her out, he might even add some pressure to make her sit for the exam.

She might consider who compels her to sit for her exam harsh and another guy who takes her out nice.

Don't just do what is pleasing to people, do what is helpful.

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If you want people to respect you as a man,

 If you want people to respect you as a man, 

read this:

1. Be relentlessly proactive.

Don’t always wait for direction from others. 

Use your own skills and resources to start getting things done and solve problems. 

Get in the habit of figuring things out for yourself. Don’t be afraid of a challenge, that doesn't mean you won't seek for help but let it not become a habit.

2. Keep your promises.

This is by far one of the most important actions you can take to start gaining respect.

Always honor commitments and promises.

If you find yourself having a lot of trouble with that, it means you make too many promises you can’t keep. Instead of promising without fulfilling them, don't promise.

3. Stop being too nice.

Distinguish kindness from always having to do things for people. 

There is a difference between being nice and being kind, know the difference and know peace

Trying to make everyone happy won’t get you very far. Being a pushover is highly undesirable if your goal is to be respectable.

4. Practice humility.

You’re not always going to be right, and you’re not the best at everything. Every person you meet can teach you something.

Confidence doesn’t come from a place where you’re the best.

5. Have a moral code.

Many overlook this important little piece of advice. 

What do you believe in? 

What’s important to you? 

What do you want to change the world? 

These kinds of questions will get you to the core of your own personal moral code.

• Be disciplined

• Be self-confident

• Build strong habits

• Chase goals, not women

6. Control your emotions.

Make sure to curb your instant reactions to things that make you highly emotional—whether it is good or bad.

Good leaders and well-respected people know the difference between responding and reacting.

7. Care about others.

Start caring about others. Pay attention to your surroundings and the people in your life.

It shows that you don’t only focus on yourself,and that you have the emotional capability to pay attention and give help when needed.

Make all the men around you read this post.

பதிவுகளுக்கு எதிர்வினை ஆற்றாது விடுதல்

 சில சம்பவங்கள், பதிவுகளுக்கு எதிர்வினை ஆற்றாது விடுதலும் முக்கியமானதே.

அமெரிக்க பாடகியும் நடிகையுமான Barbra Streisand , கலிபோர்னிய கடற்கரை ஓரம், மாலிபு எனும் இடத்தில் பெரிய பங்களா வீடொன்றை வாங்கினார். தனது ப்ரைவசியை பேணுவதற்காக, நிம்மதியாக வாழ்வதற்காக அந்த வீட்டைப் பற்றி யாருக்கும் தெரிந்து விடக் கூடாது என்பதில் அவர் அதிகம் கவனம் செலுத்தினார். எனவே, வீட்டை பற்றிய செய்திகள் ஊடகங்களில் வராமால் இரகசியமாக வைத்திருந்தார்.

2003 ல், கடலரோம் சம்பந்தமாக ஆய்வு ஆவணங்களை சேகரித்து வந்த Kenneth Adelman என்ற புகைப்படக் கலைஞர்,  ஸ்ரைசேன்டின் அறிமுகம் இல்லாத வீட்டையும் சேர்த்து படம் எடுத்து தனது தளத்திலே பதிவேற்றி விட்டார். அவர் அந்த ப்ரொஜெக்டில் மொத்தமாக எடுத்த 12000  போட்டோக்களில் இந்த வீடும் ஒன்று. அவ்வளவு தான் மேட்டர்.

ஆனால், யாருக்கும் தெரியாமல் இருந்த தனது வீடு இணையத்தளம் ஒன்றில் போட்டோவுடன் வீதியோடு கிளகயராக அப்லோட் ஆகி இருப்பதை கண்ட பாடகிக்கு இருப்பு கொள்ளவில்லை. தான் கட்டிக் காத்த இரகசியம் வெளியே தெரிந்து விடும் என்று அஞ்சினார். தனது வீட்டை போட்டோ எடுத்த அந்தப் புகைப்படக் கலைஞர் மேல், 50மில்லியன் டாலர் கேட்டு, மானநஷ்ட வழக்கு தொடர்ந்தார் பாடகி ஸ்ரைசேன்டின். செய்தி காட்டுத் தீ போல ஊர் முழுவதும் பரவ ஆரம்பித்தது. மீடியாக்களில் பேசுப்படும் கிசு கிசுவாக அந்த வீடு மாறியது.

மானநஷ்ட வழக்குக்கு போடுவதற்கு முன், அந்த வீட்டின் படம் இணையதளத்தில் வெளிவந்த நாள் முதல், மொத்தம் ஆறே ஆறு நபர்களால் மட்டுமே டவுன்லோட் செய்யப்பட்டு இருந்தது. அதில் நாலு டவுண்லோட்கள், கேஸ் சம்மந்தப்பட்ட லோயர்கள் இருவரால் செய்யப்பட்டது.

ஆனால், அந்த நீதி மன்ற வழக்கிற்குப் பின்னர், ஒரே ஒரு மாதத்திற்குள் மட்டும் 400 ,000 க்கும் மேற்பட்டவர்கள் அந்த வீட்டின் படத்தை டவுன்லோட் செய்து விட்டார்கள். கடைசியில்,  இது தான் பார்பரா ஸ்ரைசேன்டின் வீடு என்பது ஊருக்கே தெரிந்து விட்டது.

கடைசியில் நீதிமன்றமும் இந்த கேசை நிராகரித்தது மட்டுமல்லாமல், அந்த புகைப்பட கலைஞருக்கு ஏற்பட்ட வழக்கறிஞர்களுக்கான செலவை பாடகியையே பொறுப்பேற்குமாறும் உத்தரவிட்டது.

இன்றைய நவீன தொழில்நுட்ப உலகில், யாராவது  எதையாவது மறைக்க வேண்டும், தடுக்க வேண்டும் என்று எதிர் வினையாற்ற முற்பட்டால், தடுக்க அல்லது மறைக்க முற்பட்ட விடயம் விடையம், முன்னரை விட அதிகம் வெளியே தெரியவரும், நேர் எதிரான  விளைவையே ஏற்படுத்தும் என்பதற்கு இந்த கேஸ் நல்ல உதாரணம்.

பேசாமல் விட்டிருந்தால் அந்த வீடு யாருக்கும் தெரியாமலே இருந்திருக்கும். தெரியக் கூடாது என்று தடை போட மெனக்கட்டது கடைசியில் நேர்மாறான விளைவுகளேயே கொண்டு வந்து சேர்த்தது. அதனால் தான் இவ்வாறான நிகழ்வுகளுக்கு ஸ்ட்ரைஸண்ட் எஃபெக்ட் (Streisand Effect) என்ற பெயர் வழங்கப்படுகிறது. அதையே chengyu எனப்படும்‌ சீனப் பழமொழி  "wishing to cover, more conspicuous" (欲蓋彌彰) மறைக்க நாடுவதே அதிகம் வெளித்தெரியும் என்று  சொல்கிறது.

ஆகவே நாம் மறைக்க நாடிய ஒன்று வெளித் தெரிந்து விட்டது என்று தெரிந்தால், அது குறித்து ரீஅக்ட் பண்ணாமல் இருப்பதே சிறந்தது. ரீஅக்ட் பண்ணுவது ஸ்ட்ரைஸணட் எபக்டையே கொண்டு வரும். 

இப்போது உங்களுக்கு தெரிந்த ஸ்ட்ரைசன்ட் எபக்ட் வேறு என்ன இருக்கிறது? சொல்லுங்கள் பார்க்கலாம். தற்போது நாட்டில் நடக்கும் நிறை சம்பவங்கள், முகநூலில் நடைபெறும் கருத்தாடல்களும் இதை அடியொற்றியே நடைபெறுகின்றன.

5 Lessons from "Make Your Bed":

 5 Lessons from "Make Your Bed":

1. Start your day with a small accomplishment: Making your bed in the morning sets a positive tone for the rest of the day and instills a sense of pride in completing a task. It establishes the mindset of taking control and tackling challenges head-on.

2. Embrace the power of discipline: By maintaining discipline in even the smallest tasks, you develop the mental and emotional strength necessary to face larger obstacles. Discipline enables you to persevere, adapt, and thrive in any situation.

3. Failure can lead to growth: Mistakes and setbacks are inevitable, but how you respond to them determines your path forward. Learn from failures, adapt your strategies, and use them as opportunities for personal growth and improvement.

4  Build strong relationships: Success is not achieved alone. Foster meaningful connections with others, treat people with respect, and work as part of a team. By supporting and relying on each other, you can overcome challenges and achieve greater goals.

5. Never give up: Life is filled with adversity and obstacles, but perseverance is key to achieving your goals. Develop the resilience to keep pushing forward, maintain a positive attitude, and embrace the lessons learned along the way.

Top 5 step lesson learned from book -Your Next Five Moves

 Top 5 step lesson learned from book -Your Next Five Moves

Move #1 — Master knowing yourself.

Knowing yourself is rarely talked about in business circles, but it's impossible to think ahead without self-awareness. Once you definitively decide who you want to be, which direction to take will become much more clear, as well as why it matters.

Move #2 — Master the ability to reason.

How to process issues, and having a methodology for making decisions are important. No decision is ever black-and-white, and if you can learn to see all the shades of gray, that will help you move forward decisively, even in the face of uncertainty.

Move #3 — Master building the right team.

To build the right team around you, it's vital that you get to understand others. If you help people find the best in themselves, you can build a team that will help you grow. Ask questions, challenge your people to understand themselves, and build trust in your team.

Move #4 — Master strategy to scale.

Ideally, you want to spark exponential growth. Learn how to raise capital, invest in rapid growth, and create systems which will allow you to gain and maintain momentum. Tracking and constantly measuring the key parts of your business model is required.

Move #5 — Master making power plays. Everyone wants to beat the Goliath in your industry, and if you do that it will be great for your reputation and future operations. Learn how to control your narrative and leverage social media productively to frame your story. Always keep thinking five moves ahead.

𝐓𝐨𝐩 𝟏𝟎 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 – 𝐁𝐞 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐁𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟.

 𝐓𝐨𝐩 𝟏𝟎 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 – 𝐁𝐞 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐁𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟.

1. Don’t delay

Thinking about running that marathon? Register today. Eager to pursue that degree? Start preparing your application.

The first step to doing anything worthwhile is beginning. And while it can be quite challenging to make that initial leap, you won't get anywhere without kicking off the process.

2. Prioritize what matters to you – not others

You’ll never feel fulfilled if you live trying to meet someone else’s expectations. Instead, channel your effort and energy toward what matters to you.

That may be your family, travel, or reading a good book regularly. Only you can determine what’s most important to your happiness and sense of purpose in life.

Spend time around people encouraging positive self-talk and making you feel good about yourself.

3. Don’t sweat the small stuff

Unexpected events will undoubtedly arise as you go through life. You’ll make errors and embarrass yourself. That’s okay. Learn from your mistakes and setbacks, and be grateful for your progress.

4. Accept help from others

Your pride can hold you back from accepting praise and evolving. Try to work against this and accept help rather than denying it.

There’s no need to travel the road to find your best self alone. BetterUp coaches are here to help keep you accountable and provide the perspective you need to carry on when the going gets tough.

5. Take a break from social media

Platforms like Twitter, Facebook, and even Linkedin are deeply embedded in our lives. But even as social media keeps us connected and informed, it can lead to comparison and self-doubt.

If scrolling your feeds leaves you feeling down, and not uplifted, try to establish boundaries. And if you feel inadequate as you browse social media, remember people tend to post their highlights, not low moments.

6. Celebrate small victories

The little things matter.

Celebrating even small wins will motivate you to keep going until you reach your final goal. If you’re focusing on one big goal, try splitting it into steps so that you’re seeing progress. Don’t forget to reward yourself as you hit benchmarks and milestones!

7. Exercise daily

Exercise brings a wealth of positive effects to your everyday life:

According to a study from 2017, exercise creates better blood flow to the hippocampus region of your brain, a region crucial for your memory. This translates into better working memory and focus. You’ll be more productive and efficient.

• Physical activity also clears your mind and delivers oxygen to your tissues that helps your organs work more efficiently, giving you more physical energy.

• And, of course, exercise makes a big difference to your long-term health, helping prevent chronic health conditions such as type diabetes and high blood pressure, according to the Mayo Clinic. Your best self is a healthy self.

8. Speak up for yourself

Your opinion is important. Stand up and speak up. It may be nerve-wracking, but the more you practice, the more confident you’ll feel.

9. Embrace failure

In order to experience growth,

you’ll need to get out of your comfort zone.

Without risks, you’ll never develop new skills, discover new interests and passions, or experience personal growth.

Failure can be the best teacher if you take the time to reflect and do the work to learn from it.

10. Stop looking for short-cuts

These don’t exist when it comes to self-improvement. It takes patience and hard work, Period.

3 extra tips to be the best version of yourself

As you strive toward authenticity and being the best possible version of yourself, it’s wise to remember the following:

1. Your values

Whether it’s family, trust, loyalty, hard work, or kindness, what you value is at the core of what defines you. Your personal values define how you view the world and others in it.

2. Your strengths

Everyone has hard and soft skills and can accomplish a ton. Focus on developing your strengths – these will help you overcome hurdles.

3. The importance of self-compassion

You may feel like traveling in a completely different direction than others, especially if you’re not where you want to be. Take a moment to appreciate what your mind and body do for you. You’ll get there.

𝟭𝟬 𝗣𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝗟𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗙𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗕𝗼𝗼𝗸 "𝟭𝟬𝟭 𝗘𝘀𝘀𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗧𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸"

 𝟭𝟬 𝗣𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝗟𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗙𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗕𝗼𝗼𝗸 "𝟭𝟬𝟭 𝗘𝘀𝘀𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗧𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸" 

1. More Is Not Better✅

Happiness is not about experiencing more of something.

It's about experiencing what you love in new and interesting ways.

2. Embrace Fear✅

You assume happiness is good, and fear is bad.

Fear is an indicator that you're doing something worthwhile. 

Change your story around fear. Bad feelings are not always bad.

3. Seek New Experiences✅

It's difficult to change your beliefs through thought alone.

Seek new and novel experiences that make new beliefs real to you.

4. Problems Are Pathways✅

You view problems as roadblocks to your success. Truth is, they're pathways.

"What stands in the way becomes the way."

- Marcus Aurelius

5. Your Past Does Not Define You✅

We believe the past is set in stone, but in reality, your perception of the past changes as you do. 

Change your future, change your past.

6. Tame Your Mind✅

An untamed mind is a minefield.

Impulsive sub-conscious thinking is disastrous in the long term.

Learn to let your conscious mind make decisions.

7. Avoid Fear with Routines✅

Habits and routine turn off your "fight or flight system" by making the unknown known.

This is why people with strong, healthy habits experience so much joy.

8. Emotional Intelligence✅

You can't control your emotions, but you can control your reaction to them.

Gain control of your life by being aware of your emotions.

9. Choose Your Thoughts✅

Recognize that social conditioning forms your thoughts. Reflect on your beliefs to figure out if they're your own. 

Let go of any thoughts that no longer serve you.

10. Validate Feelings, Not Idea's✅

Build stronger relationships by validating their feelings.

Everyone's feelings deserve to be felt, seen, and respected.

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HOW TO RESPECT YOURSELF

 HOW TO RESPECT YOURSELF

(1) Stop looking for who is not looking for you.

(2) Stop begging.

(3) Stop saying more than is necessary.

(4) When people disrespect you, confront them immediately.

(5) Don't eat other people's food more than they eat yours.

(6) Reduce how you visit some people, especially if they don't reciprocate it.

(7) Invest in yourself. Make yourself happy.

(8) Stop entertaining gossip about other people.

(9) Think before you talk. 80% of how people value you is what comes out of your mouth.

(10) Always look your best. Dress the way you should be addressed.

(11) Be an achiever. Get busy with your goals.

(12) Respect your time.

(13) Don't stay in a relationship where you don't feel respected and valued. Walk away.

(14) Learn to spend money on yourself. That's how people will learn to spend on you.

(15) Be scarce sometimes.

(16) Be a giver more than a receiver.

(17) Don't go where you are not invited. And when invited don't overstay your welcome.

(18) Treat people exactly the way they deserve.

(19) Except they owe you money, two call attempts is enough. If they value you they will call you back.

(20) Be good at what you do. Be the best.

I learnt something about HURRIED JUDGEMENT vs DELAYED JUDGEMENT weeks ago.

 I learnt something about HURRIED JUDGEMENT vs DELAYED JUDGEMENT weeks ago.

A little girl was holding two apples with both hands. Her mum came and asked her little daughter with a smile; "Baby,could you give your mum one of your two apples? The girl looked up at her mum for some seconds, then she suddenly took a quick bite on one apple & then quickly a bite on the other apple.

The mum was disappointed & the smile on her face disappeared. Then the little girl handed one of her bitten apples to her mum & said "Mummy,take this one.This is the sweeter one."

From the mum's HURRIED JUDGEMENT, the little girl is either selfish or greedy.

No matter who you are, how experienced you are & how knowledgeable you think you are, always DELAY JUDGEMENT; Give others the privilege to explain themselves. What you see may not be the reality.

Never conclude for others. Which is why we should never only focus on the surface & judge others without understanding them first. Those who like to pay the bill, do so not because they are loaded but because they value friendship above money.

Those who take the initiative at work, do so not because they are stupid but because they understand the concept of responsibility. Those who apologize first after a fight or quarrel do so not because they are wrong but because they value the people around them.

Those who are willing to help you, do so not because they owe you any thing but because they see you as a true friend. Those who often text you, do so not because they have nothing better to do but because you are in their heart.

Those who take out time to chat with you, does not mean they are jobless or less busy, but they know the importance of keeping in touch. One day, all of us will get  separated  from each other; we will miss our conversations of everything & nothing; the dreams that we had.

Top 10 Time-Wasting Habits...

 Top 10 Time-Wasting Habits...

1. Trying to please everyone.

Strategies to overcome

• Learn to say no

• Prioritize your own needs

•Seek out supportive relationships

2. Overthinking

Strategies to overcome

• Write down your thoughts

• Practice mindfulness

•Use positive self-talk

3. Repeating the same mistakes

Strategies to overcome

• Stay organized 

• Seek feedback

• Reflect on the mistake

4. Complaining

Strategies to overcome

• Reframe your thoughts 

• Find ways to problem-solve

• Practice gratitude

5. Waiting for inspiration

Strategies to overcome

• Set specific goals

• Seek out new experiences

• Just take action

6. Holding grudges

Strategies to overcome

• Communicate honestly 

• Practice forgiveness

• Reflect on the situation

7. Focusing on the past

Strategies to overcome

• Set goals for the present and future

• Challenge negative thoughts 

• Reflect on the past in a positive light

8. Being indecisive

Strategies to overcome

• Seek out advice

• Take small steps

• Make a choice and move forward

9. Negative self-talk

Strategies to overcome

• Celebrate achievements

• Practice positive affirmations

• Identify negative thought patterns

10. Procrastinating on important tasks

Strategies to overcome

• Remove distractions

• Set deadlines

• View tasks as opportunities rather than burdens.

 

HOW TO BE ALWAYS HAPPY IN LIFE.

 HOW TO BE ALWAYS HAPPY IN LIFE.

Advice from Grandma 

1. Always remember that there is nobody on this earth that does not have problems. You are not the only one that has problems.

2. Challenges is part of life. It is only a dead man that has no challenges.

3. There is no problem that has no solution. There are solutions to the pains you are passing through.

4. The way you picture yourself in your mind can affect your happiness. Picture yourself as a valuable and beautiful person. Avoid low self esteem and inferiority complex.

5. Do not mind about what people say about you. Some people are sadists. They can just say something's just to make you feel sad.

6. Make friends with reasonable people who make you happy. Do not make friends with people who make jest of you or laugh at you over your challenges.

7. At your leisure time, keep yourself busy with your favorite hobbies like reading , Learning, etc.

8. Do not allow anyone to intimidate you with money and material things. A poor man today can become rich tomorrow. Change is constant.

9. No matter what you are passing through today, do not give up. As long as there is life, there is hope. Never stop trying. Give it one more time. 

10. Be very #prayerful. Pray without ceasing. Prayer is a catalyst that can speed up your blessings to come to you on time.

11. Be courageous to go for what you want. Life is all about risk. If you don't take a risk, you will not get the desires of your heart.❤

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6 TERRIBLE DECISIONS THAT YOU CAN EVER MAKE IN LIFE!

 6 TERRIBLE DECISIONS THAT YOU CAN EVER MAKE IN LIFE!

1. Giving up on your dreams: If you give up on what you truly wanted to achieve, you may end up living with regret and wondering what could have been.

2. Staying in a toxic relationship: Staying in a relationship that is emotionally or physically abusive can have long-lasting negative effects on your mental health and well-being.

3. Neglecting your health: Failing to take care of your physical and mental health can lead to chronic illnesses and other complications.

4. Burning bridges: Cutting off people from your life without properly addressing issues or attempting to resolve conflicts can ultimately lead to a sense of loneliness and isolation.

5. Not pursuing education or personal growth opportunities: Refusing to learn new things or develop new skills can limit your potential and hinder career growth.

6. Living beyond your means: Spending excessively and not managing finances wisely can lead to debt and financial instability, creating unnecessary stress and hardship.

Remember, every decision you make has the potential to impact your life in significant ways, so it's essential to carefully consider and evaluate your options before making a choice.

5 THINGS THAT CAN KILL YOUR DREAM

 5 THINGS THAT CAN KILL YOUR DREAM

1. Fear: Fear is one of the most significant obstacles that can stop people from pursuing their dreams. Fear of failure, fear of the unknown, fear of rejection, fear of what others might think - all these fears can hold you back and prevent you from taking risks or stepping out of your comfort zone.

2. Lack of focus: If you don't have a clear idea of what you want to achieve, it's difficult to work towards that goal. Without a specific target in mind, you might find yourself wandering aimlessly and lacking the drive to take action.

3. Negative self-talk: The way you talk to yourself can have a profound impact on your ability to pursue your dreams. If you're constantly telling yourself that you're not good enough, or that you'll never make it, you're likely to lose motivation and give up on your aspirations.

4. Lack of perseverance: Achieving your dreams often requires hard work, dedication, and perseverance. If you give up too easily when faced with setbacks or obstacles, you may struggle to make progress towards your goals.

5. Lack of support: Having a strong support system can make a big difference in your ability to achieve your dreams. Surrounding yourself with people who encourage and believe in you can give you the confidence and motivation to keep working towards your goals, even when things get tough.

ADVICE TO ALL EMPLOYEES

 ADVICE TO ALL EMPLOYEES  

1. Build a home earlier. Be it rural home or urban home. Building a house at 50 is not an achievement. Don't get used to government houses. This comfort is so dangerous. Let all your family have good time in your house.

 

2. Go home. Don't stick at work all the year.  You are not the pillar of your department.  If you drop dead today, you will be replaced immediately and operations will continue.  Make your family a priority.

3. Don't chase promotions.  Master your skills and be excellent at what you do. If they want to promote you, that's fine if they don't,  stay positive to your personal.

development.

4. Avoid office or work gossip. Avoid things that tarnish your name or reputation. Don't join the bandwagon that backbites  your bosses and colleagues. Stay away from negative gatherings that have only people as their agenda.

5. Don't ever compete with your bosses.  You will burn your fingers.  Don't compete with your colleagues, you will fry your brain.

6. Ensure you have a side business.  Your salary will not sustain your needs in the long run.

7. Save some money. Let it be deducted automatically from your payslip. 

8. Borrow a loan to invest in a business or to change a situation not to buy luxury. Buy luxury from your profit.

9. Keep your life,marriage and family private. Let them stay away from your work. This is very important.  

10. Be loyal to yourself  and believe in your work. Hanging around your boss will alienate you from your colleagues and  your boss may finally dump you when he leaves. 

11. Retire early.  The best way to plan for your exit was when you received the employment letter. The other best time is today.  By 40 to 50 be out. 

12. Join work welfare and be an active member always. It will help you a lot when  any eventuality occurs.

13.Take leave days utilize them by developing yr future home or projects..usually what you do during yr leave days is a reflection of how you'll live after retirement..If it means you spend it all holding a remote control watching series on Zee world, expect nothing different after retirement.

14. Start a project whilst still serving or working. Let your project run whilst at work and if it doesn't do well, start another one till it's running viably. When your project is viably running then retire to manage your business. Most people or pensioners fail in life because they retire to start a project instead of retiring to run a project. 

15. Pension money is not for starting a project or buy a stand or build a house but it's money for your upkeep or to maintain yourself in good health. Pension money is not for paying school fees or marrying a young wife but to look after yourself.

16. Always remember, when you retire never be a case study for living a miserable life after retirement but be a role model for colleagues to think of retiring too. 

17. Don't retire just because you are finished or you are now a burden to the company and just wait for your day to die. Retire young or whilst energetic to enjoy waking up for a cup of coffee, enjoy the sun, receive money from your business, visit nice place that you missed and spend good time with family. Those who retire late, spend about 95% of their time at work than with their family and that's why they see it difficult to spend time with their family when they retire but end looking for another job till they die. If they don't get another job, they die early.

18. Retire at your house than at government accommodation so that when you retire you can easily fit into the society that raised you. It's not easy to adjust to live in a location after spending more years at company house or at government house.

19. Never let your employment benefits make you forget about your retirement. Employment benefits are just meant to make you relax, get finished whilst time is moving. Remember when you retire no one will call you boss if you don't have a viable business.

20. Don't hate to retire because one day you will retire either voluntarily or involuntarily. 

Hope this will help you look at life positively

𝐓𝐨𝐩 𝟏𝟎 𝐋𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐅𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐁𝐨𝐨𝐤 “𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐆𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐆𝐮𝐢𝐝𝐞”

 𝐓𝐨𝐩 𝟏𝟎 𝐋𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐅𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐁𝐨𝐨𝐤 “𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐆𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐆𝐮𝐢𝐝𝐞”

1. Window of opportunity

Fear makes us lose small opportunities. You must learn to run towards your fears.

Do the things that make you uncomfortable. Visit the places that scare you. Talk to people, even if you fear them. Make friends.

2. Nothing fails like success

The more you stop doing what took you up to the number one position, that is the moment you crumble.

Organizations that remain successful are humble, efficient, play faster, devoted, and add value to their clients.

3. Be a rock star at work

Be passionate about what you do. Work puts meaning into our lives.

Working hard makes you a gift to yourself and the organization. You will be happier and richer and live a fulfilling life.

4. Your days define your life

You create your future by what you do today. Nothing is small.

The smallest choices you make now have consequences.

5. Be a Lifetime Learner

A leader who reads profusely will encounter situations in which he may rely on the experience gained from a book to solve such problems.

Reading remains the best discipline anyone can cultivate.

6. Get some skin in the game

Albert Einstein describes insanity as doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting the same result.

You must learn to take risks in life to avoid staying in one position. Taking more risks in pursuing your dreams is rewarding.

7. Make time to think

“Five percent of the people think; ten percent of the people think they think; and the other eighty-five percent would rather die than think”

–Thomas A. Edison

8. Leadership begins on the extra mile

The greatness guide teaches that leadership and success begin with the extra mile.

Ordinary people do not spend time on the extra mile.

Who says you are ordinary?

9. Reference point

Ultimately, success is about consistency in what you do.

You should pick positive reference points that will help you see alternative ways of doing things.

10. Life Lessons

Be the eternal optimist — get more joy from life and see the best in every situation

Value people — put people first, respect your friends. They will never fail you.

Be Decisive!

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𝟭𝟬 𝗣𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝗟𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗙𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗕𝗼𝗼𝗸 "𝟭𝟬𝟭 𝗘𝘀𝘀𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗧𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸"

 𝟭𝟬 𝗣𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝗟𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗙𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗕𝗼𝗼𝗸 "𝟭𝟬𝟭 𝗘𝘀𝘀𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗧𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸" 

1. More Is Not Better✅

Happiness is not about experiencing more of something.

It's about experiencing what you love in new and interesting ways.

2. Embrace Fear✅

You assume happiness is good, and fear is bad.

Fear is an indicator that you're doing something worthwhile. 

Change your story around fear. Bad feelings are not always bad.

3. Seek New Experiences✅

It's difficult to change your beliefs through thought alone.

Seek new and novel experiences that make new beliefs real to you.

4. Problems Are Pathways✅

You view problems as roadblocks to your success. Truth is, they're pathways.

"What stands in the way becomes the way."

- Marcus Aurelius

5. Your Past Does Not Define You✅

We believe the past is set in stone, but in reality, your perception of the past changes as you do. 

Change your future, change your past.

6. Tame Your Mind✅

An untamed mind is a minefield.

Impulsive sub-conscious thinking is disastrous in the long term.

Learn to let your conscious mind make decisions.

7. Avoid Fear with Routines✅

Habits and routine turn off your "fight or flight system" by making the unknown known.

This is why people with strong, healthy habits experience so much joy.

8. Emotional Intelligence✅

You can't control your emotions, but you can control your reaction to them.

Gain control of your life by being aware of your emotions.

9. Choose Your Thoughts✅

Recognize that social conditioning forms your thoughts. Reflect on your beliefs to figure out if they're your own. 

Let go of any thoughts that no longer serve you.

10. Validate Feelings, Not Idea's✅

Build stronger relationships by validating their feelings.

Everyone's feelings deserve to be felt, seen, and respected.

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10 Leadership Lessons from" The Leader in you"-Dale Carnegie

 10 Leadership Lessons from" The Leader in you"-Dale Carnegie

1. Talk less, listen more.

People will pay attention to what you say, just because of your position. The leader’s job is to pay attention to what other people say, especially those who think their views don’t count. Show you’re listening by acting on what people tell you, and gain their trust by giving them the credit.

2. Don’t step in with solutions too quickly.

No-one learns anything new if you keep doing what you already know how to do, and don’t allow others to try. Anyway, they may find a different, or better way, and if not… mistakes are valuable too.

3. Be authentic.

Be authentic, passionate, even emotional, about what you believe in. Share your vision and live your values. The personal is more engaging, even inspiring, than the process.

4. Don’t ‘dis’ downwards.

Once a decision is made by the Board, or the leadership team, it’s yours even if you argued against it during discussions. Your job as leader is to get others to believe in, and work towards, a shared goal, not to divide opinion or loyalties.

5. I’m OK: You’re OK.

Start from the position that everyone is doing the best they can, then look for ways to support and encourage them – which is so much more rewarding than finding fault.

6. Don’t be the smartest person in the room.

Being a leader does not mean knowing more than anyone else. Recognise, encourage and promote others as experts. Give them the trust and autonomy to be creative and do excellent work, defined in their terms. You simply provide the direction, so that this excellent work contributes to a shared purpose.

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7. Sense of purpose.

Your team know what they do and how to do it, but you can make a big difference by sharing a strong sense of why they’re doing it and where it’s heading. Help them develop a broad understanding of the team’s purpose, and faith in how their role contributes to the whole. (Remember the floor-sweeper at NASA?)

8. Being right isn’t enough.

A great idea is of no consequence unless you can convince others to believe it too, and then persuade them to help you make your idea a reality. The best way to do this is to make the idea theirs.

9. Focus on a few things.

Focusing on the things that really matter and where you can make a difference. There may be a hundred different distractions and demands on your time and a hundred ways you could respond, but it’s the dozen carefully chosen actions that deliver the results.

10. Get out and about.

Get out and about and in the work. It’s hard to retain that sense of what the job’s really about when you are sitting

10 Important Lessons from book -"RULES for MY UNBORN SON"

 10 Important Lessons from book -"RULES for MY UNBORN SON"

1)Self-discipline

Knowing how to work hard is just as important as working hard. Keeping yourself motivated when things are easy is one thing, but keeping yourself motivated when things are bad is another beast. Regardless of the situation, you must have the willpower to push through. Showing that you can do this will not only motivate those around you, it will make you a stronger man.

2)Take responsibility

In short step-up. Men take responsibility for their actions and don’t need others to tell them when or how to do so. Being responsible for one’s choices and actions isn’t always the easiest thing in the world. However, true manhood is being able to admit when they are wrong.

3)Choose your battles wisely.

It’s important to know which ones are worth fighting and which ones are better left as is. It’s okay to be quiet and walk away. It doesn’t make you less of a man.

4)Be a gentleman

Having old school values is okay. Treating women with respect is even more than okay.

-Hold the door

-Offer your seat.

-Push her chair up to the table.

-Watch your language

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5)Be honest with yourself and everyone else.

Men who are honest are comfortable in themselves. “An honest man has an honorable manhood, which is something that every man should consider to succeed in life.”

6)Humility

Confidence is important but so is being humble. Men have to learn how to balance the two. Being able to do creates a strong and effective leader, which should be the goal for every man.

7)Giving to others rather than receiving.

Men who exemplify manhood see a need, and take the necessary steps to remedy that need. Filling a void and helping others, gives you a greater sense of joy than seeing what others can do for you.

8)Manners

Men (especially fathers) are portrayed as disgusting pigs (ala Al Bundy), but that’s not all men. Manners are important every second of the day, in every situation. Whether you are at home eating at your dinner table or eating in a five-star restaurant. Manners define people, and it separates us in terms of class and sophistication. Having manners and using them, also means that you are showing others around you respect.

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9)Be open.

It’s okay to show feelings and to be sensitive. Toxic masculinity is a thing. To deny it exists is foolish. It’s not hard to find, and I could list several examples. In order to combat it, we have to teach our sons that it’s okay be vulnerable. It’s okay to show compassion to others. It’s a wonderful quality that all leaders have, which is why they are loved and respected by others.

10)The first shall be last.

This is a quote I read on Facebook a year ago and typed into my phone as a reminder.

True manhood puts others first. If you want to be a leader, then the place to be is on your knees, with a towel in your hand, washing someone’s feet.

Top 10 Time-Wasting Habits...

 Top 10 Time-Wasting Habits...

1. Trying to please everyone.

Strategies to overcome

• Learn to say no

• Prioritize your own needs

•Seek out supportive relationships

2. Overthinking

Strategies to overcome

• Write down your thoughts

• Practice mindfulness

•Use positive self-talk

3. Repeating the same mistakes

Strategies to overcome

• Stay organized 

• Seek feedback

• Reflect on the mistake

4. Complaining

Strategies to overcome

• Reframe your thoughts 

• Find ways to problem-solve

• Practice gratitude

5. Waiting for inspiration

Strategies to overcome

• Set specific goals

• Seek out new experiences

• Just take action

6. Holding grudges

Strategies to overcome

• Communicate honestly 

• Practice forgiveness

• Reflect on the situation

7. Focusing on the past

Strategies to overcome

• Set goals for the present and future

• Challenge negative thoughts 

• Reflect on the past in a positive light

8. Being indecisive

Strategies to overcome

• Seek out advice

• Take small steps

• Make a choice and move forward

9. Negative self-talk

Strategies to overcome

• Celebrate achievements

• Practice positive affirmations

• Identify negative thought patterns

10. Procrastinating on important tasks

Strategies to overcome

• Remove distractions

• Set deadlines

• View tasks as opportunities rather than burdens.

 

5 COMMON REASONS THAT PEOPLE HAVE TROUBLE IDENTIFYING THEIR DREAM

 5 COMMON REASONS THAT PEOPLE HAVE TROUBLE  IDENTIFYING THEIR DREAM 

1. Discouragement from other people: Many people have had their dreams knocked out of them. the world is filled with dreams crushers and idea killers. Some people who aren't pursuing any dream of their own don't like to see others pursuing theirs. other people's success makes them feel inadequate or insecure.

2. Some people are hindered by past disappointments and hurts: Disappointment is the gap that exists between expectation and reality. all of us have encountered that gap. we've had an unexpectedly bad experience. we've had to live with our unfulfilled desires and we've had our hope dashed. Disappointment can be highly damaging to us.

3. Some people get in the habit of setting for the habit of average: Columnist Maureen Dowd says, "The minutes you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for". Dreams require a person to stretch, to go beyond average. You can't reach for a dream and remain safety mediocre at the same time. The two are incompatible.

4. Some people lack the confidence needed to pursue their dreams: It takes confidence to talk about your dream and more to pursue it. and sometimes confidence separates the people who dream and pursue those dreams from those who don't.

5. Some people lack the imagination to dream: How do people discover their dream? by dreaming! That may sound overly simplistic, but that's where it starts. Imagination is the soil that brings a dream to life. Nobel prize-winning physicist Albert Einstein, a dreamer, and thinker understands the value of the imagination. He said, "When I examine myself and my method of thought, I come to the conclusion that the gift of fantasy has meant more to me than my talent for absorbing positive knowledge". Einstein called his imagination a "holy curiosity"

-JOHN C. MAXWELL

Top 5 Lessons learned from book -" BELIEVE YOU CAN "

 Top 5 Lessons learned from book -" BELIEVE YOU CAN "

1. If Youre Not You, Then Who Are You Going to Be?

Be yourself. Think about it: Arent most of the discontented people you know trying to be someone they arent or trying to do something theyre not supposed to do? A Congolese proverb asserts, Wood may remain ten years in the water, but it will never become a crocodile. Nobody is as disappointed and unhappy as the person who spends her life longing to be somebody else..

2. Dont Build a Case Against Yourself

Stewart Johnson commented, Our business in life is not to get ahead of others, but to get ahead of ourselvesto break our own records, to outstrip our yesterday by our today, to do our work with more force than ever before. Stop looking only at where you are and start looking at what you can be. If you doubt yourself, listen to Alexandre Dumas: A person who doubts himself is like a man who enlists in the ranks of his enemy and bears arms against himself. Tim Redmond cautions, Dont commit treason against your own life and purpose.

3. Thomas Edison Was Afraid of the Dark

Yes! Edison was afraid of the darkyet he overcame that obstacle in a big way and invented the light bulb. The door to opportunity swings on the hinges of adversity. Problems are the price of progress. The obstacles of life are intended to make us better, not bitter. Adversity has advantages. Dont let your problems take the leadyou take it. The difficulty you face is simply an opportunity for you to do your best.

4. You Can Only Live Today

Seize the moment! Opportunities are constantly either coming to you or by you. Today was once the future from which you expected so much in the past. Horatio Dresser said, The ideal never comes. Today is ideal for him who makes it so. Live for today. Dont let what you have within your grasp today be lost entirely because the future intrigues you and the past disheartens you.

5. Be a Little Kinder Than You Have to Be

Serving others is one of lifes most awesome privileges. Hunt for the good points in people. Remember, they have to do the same in your case. Then do something to help them. If you want to get ahead, be a bridge instead of a wall. Love others more than they deserve. Albert Schweitzer said, The only ones among you who will really be happy are those who have sought and found how to serve. Pierre Teilhard de Chardin commented, The most satisfying thing in life is to have been able to give a large part of oneself to others.

 50 short rules for a better life:

1. No one knows what they’re doing. Some do it anyway.

2. Work hard on what doesn’t feel like work.

3. Your thoughts make up your life. Literally. If you don't enjoy thinking about it, don't spend time pursuing it.

4. To make new friends, treat strangers like you’ve been friends forever.

5. If you want to win awards, be the best. If you want to actually win, be the only.

6. Most people don’t need advice. They need one person to believe in them.

7. Meditate to upgrade your software. Work out to upgrade your hardware.

8. When you can't decide, the answer is obvious.

9. Pick one problem to solve this decade, and problems today get a lot easier.

10. The happiest people combine art, passion, and purpose, into one compounding vehicle.

11. Spend time with freaks. They have dashes of genius, madness, harshness and kindness. Authenticity doesn't live in the middle.

12. The world wants to know you for one thing. Do everything you want, but own one idea.

13. To be heard, don’t follow the herd.

14. Fill your mind with inspiration from the edges. Read old books. Walk new streets. Unique ideas starts with unique input.

15. People can ‘feel the energy you put into your work.

16. When you’re good, they tell you. When you’re great, they tell others.

17. If you’re following steps, you’re falling behind.

18. The more you’re hesitating to share it, the more you desperately need to.

19. Art is a marathon of creative sprints.

20. The more you write, the more you’re right.

21. Never apologize for doing something good for you, but strange for others.

22. The future of work is not 'play.' It's a relentless obsession with what sets your heart on fire. This isn't a game. It's war. With a beautiful, torturous craft that consumes your entire life.

23. If you’re being copied, you’re on to something.

24. Life is short. The world is small. You owe it to yourself, to bet everything on a dream you don’t want to wake up from.

25. Obsess over the details for a decade, and you will win.

26. When you’re predictably unpredictable, they pay attention.

27. Life gets easier when you fall in love with hard things.

28. Don’t ‘be’ things. Do things.

29. Working out without your phone will solve 99% of your problems.

30. If you're not obsessed with the future you're creating, create a new one.

31. If your problems were given to a friend, you’d know exactly what they should do.

32. When you’re stuck between two things, choose a third.

33. Happiness can be measured by how excited you are to wake up.

34. The more obsessed you are with your craft, the more relaxed you’ll be with your life.

35. If you think you need a haircut, get a haircut.

36. If you can make decisions quickly, and unemotionally, the world is yours.

37. Use technology more than it uses you.

38. If you want people to follow you, lead them somewhere.

39. Focus on art for a decade, and profit will come for a lifetime.

40. When you start enjoying pressure, you’re about to win big.

41. Most progress comes without a plan.

42. Everyone is dying to talk about *something.* Notice when their voice changes, when their eyes light up, and let them share that world with you. Make people feel seen for their obsessions.

43. Great writing isn’t read. It’s felt.

44. Use your dark side to make something bright.

45. True greatness is a rare combination of obsession, service, and patience.

46. Pain tells you exactly where to go.

47. Don't trust an ideas you 'think' of. The greatest ideas come to you. And you have no other choice.

48. Life's short. Go make stuff.

49. Put yourself in places you don't belong. One day, you'll end up where you want to be.

50. The number one rule: Break as many rules as possible.

Keep following 

𝐓𝐨𝐩 𝟏𝟐 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 "𝐑𝐞𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤"

 𝐓𝐨𝐩 𝟏𝟐 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 "𝐑𝐞𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤"

1. Mistakes and Learning

- Learning from your success will always tell you what to do next. Therefore, it is important to understand that failure is not a prerequisite to success.

- When you learn from your mistakes, you learn what NOT to do.

2. Don’t let the past drive the future

- You have to learn to go in new directions because that is what is suitable today.

-  If you break your tasks into smaller ones, you are much more likely to be accurately compared to estimating something big.

3. Premature Growth means death

- See what feels right, small companies wish they were big, and big companies wish they were more agile.

- Premature growth is a dead point, don’t grow for the sake of growing.

4. Don’t be a Workaholic

- Workaholics create more problems than they solve. If you always work hard, you don’t know what are considered to be real problems.

- Work hard when required, not always — you will burn out.

5. Let your customers miss you

- You want your customers to feel that if you stop doing what you do, they will feel something is missing.

-Build stuff you want to use. When you solve your own problem, you know how to solve it.

6. Don’t be a hypocrite, and stay in control!

- Don’t be a hypocrite like these companies who say they are sorry to keep you waiting but still put you on hold for hours!

- That thinking a robot is showing “genuine affection” is silly.

7. Worry about the necessities.

- Whatever you decide to do, ask yourself if it adds value. Value is about balance, will your “change” actually do anything?

- Don’t add unless it really impacts your product, and avoid throwing good time at bad work!

8. Work smart, and avoid interruptions!

- Some people work hours through the night when there is little or no interruption.

- You need to focus for long periods of time.

9. Meetings, the right way…

- Meetings generally are so vague they never have a goal.

- Create a “JUDO” approach. This is when you find a simple solution to a complex problem, even if it is not perfect.

10. Small victories

- Accomplish small victories along the way. When you start small, get feedback instantly, and keep this process up until you go big.

- You can manage small victories by prioritizing.

11. Creativity

- Be creative, and make the product about you.

- Do not copy anyone. Focus on injecting what is unique about you into your product.

12. Take responsibility

-There are always people who will call you out on your flaws. Hold your hands up straight away.

- The highest person ranked should take responsibility and promptly address the issue.

You can't improve if you don't know what you're doing wrong.

• Make time for stillness

• Master your mind

• Practice decision-making skills

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𝟏𝟎 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐅𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 "𝐁𝐞 𝐁𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐁𝐢𝐭-𝐁𝐲- 𝐁𝐢𝐭"

 𝟏𝟎 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐅𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 "𝐁𝐞 𝐁𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐁𝐢𝐭-𝐁𝐲- 𝐁𝐢𝐭"

1. Small daily improvements over time lead to stunning results.

2. The only way to improve is to take action.

3. Success is a journey, not a destination. Enjoy the journey.

4. It's not about being perfect, it's about making progress.

5. Every challenge is an opportunity to learn and grow

6. When you change your habits, you change your life.

7. The greatest discovery of this generation is that a human being Can alter his life by altering his attitude.

8. One hour of television will pass by, but one hour of reading will remain with you forever.

9. The Way to Overcome resistance and the fear of failure is to make small and consistent efforts toward fulfilling One's goals.

10. Once you remove the Shield of ignorance, your life will be very different as you discover the potential of your mind.

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HOW TO RESPECT YOURSELF IN 2023

 HOW TO RESPECT YOURSELF IN 2023

1...Stop looking for who is not looking for you.

2... Stop begging.

3...Stop saying more than necessary.

4...When people disrespect you, confront them immediately.

5...Don't eat other people's food more than they eat yours.

6...Reduce how you visit some people, especially if they don't reciprocate it.

7...Invest in yourself. Make yourself happy.

8... Stop entertaining gossip about other people.

9...Think before you talk. 80% of how people value you is what comes out of your mouth.

10... Always look your best. Dress the way you should be addressed.

11... Be an achiever. Get busy with your goals

12...Respect your time.

13... Don't stay in a relationship where you don't feel respected and valued. Walk away.

14... Learn to spend money on yourself. That's how people will learn to spend on you.

15... Be scarce sometimes.

16...Be a giver more than a receiver.

17...Don't go where you are not invited. And when invited don't overstay your welcome.

18...Treat people exactly the way they deserve.

19... Except they owe you money, two call attempts is enough. If they value you they will call you back.

20...Be good at what you do.

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S.T.I.C.K TO YOUR DREAMS:

 S.T.I.C.K TO YOUR DREAMS:

• S-Stay away from toxic people

• T-Try not to overthink.

•  I-Ignore negative opinions.

• C-Continue to have faith.

• K-Keep working for

10 things every man must learn from Thomas Shelby:

 10 things every man must learn from Thomas Shelby:

1. Loyalty: 

Thomas is fiercely loyal to his family and his gang. 

He'll do whatever it takes to protect them and keep them safe. 

As a man, it's important to be loyal to those you care about and stand up for them when necessary.

2. Confidence: 

Thomas exudes confidence in everything he does. 

Whether he's negotiating a deal or engaging in hand-to-hand combat, he's always cool, calm, and collected. 

As a man, it's crucial to have confidence in yourself and your abilities.

3. Emotional intelligence: 

Despite his tough exterior, Thomas has a deep understanding of human emotions

He knows how to read people & use their emotions to his advantage

As a man, it's important to develop emotional intelligence in order to navigate complex social situations

4. Discipline: 

Thomas is a man of discipline. 

He's able to control his emotions and stay focused on his goals. 

As a man, it's important to develop discipline in order to achieve success.

5. Strategic thinking: 

Thomas is known for his exceptional strategic thinking. 

He's always several steps ahead of his opponents and knows how to play the long game. 

As a man, it's essential to develop strategic thinking skills in order to succeed in life.

6. Leadership: 

Thomas is a natural leader. 

He commands respect from his peers and is able to rally his troops to achieve their goals. 

As a man, it's important to learn how to lead effectively and inspire those around you to achieve greatness.

7. Adaptability: 

Thomas is able to adapt to new situations and environments quickly.

He's comfortable in both high society and the seedy underbelly of Birmingham. 

As a man, it's important to be adaptable and comfortable in any situation.

8. Resourcefulness: 

Thomas is a master of resourcefulness. 

He's able to make the most out of any situation and use his limited resources to his advantage. 

As a man, it's important to be resourceful and learn how to make the most out of what you have.

9. Resilience: 

Thomas has been through some tough times, but he always manages to bounce back. 

He's a survivor and never gives up. 

As a man, it's important to develop resilience and learn how to bounce back from setbacks.

10.  Vision: 

Thomas has a clear vision for his future and knows exactly what he wants.

He's able to see the big picture and make decisions that will help him achieve his goals.

As a man, it's important to have a clear vision for your future and work towards it every day.

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 "Weak people revenge. 

Strong people forgive. 

Intelligent People Ignore."

-Albert Einstein

SEE HOW OVERTHINKING IS KILLING YOU..

 SEE HOW OVERTHINKING IS KILLING YOU...

Overthinking means to think too much about (something): to put too much time into thinking about or analyzing (something) in a way that is more harmful than helpful.

Overthinkers may have trouble distinguishing between the fear of making a mistake, which leads to overthinking to the point where they make no decision, and a deep feeling that something is wrong. 

Knowing if fear or intuition is guiding your behavior will help you get out of your head and take the next necessary steps.

SIGNS THAT YOU OVERTHINK

▶️Difficulty following along with and contributing to a conversation because you go over potential responses or statements time and again until the conversation has either ended or the window of opportunity for speaking was lost

▶️Continually comparing yourself to the people around you and how you measure up to them

▶️Focusing on worst-case scenarios either involving yourself or the ones you love

▶️Reliving past failures or mistakes over and over again and you're unable to move past them

▶️Worrying about future tasks and/or goals until they feel almost impossible to accomplish

▶️Reliving a past traumatic experience (such as abuse or the loss of a loved one) leaving you unable to cope with it

▶️An inability to slow down the racing of vague thoughts, worries or emotions

HOW TO OVERCOME OVERTHINKING

➡️Don't think of what can go wrong, but what can go right.

➡️Distract yourself into happiness. Meditate of positive outcome. 

➡️Stop waiting for perfection.

➡️Accept your best. Celebrate your little wins

➡️Know you are a work in progress,you are not above making mistake.

➡️Be grateful for what you have as you wait for what you are expecting

Stop overthinking and act now.

Don’t forget to follow 

Let's all be masters of our mouths so that we won't be slaves of our words.'

 Once upon a time an old man spread rumors that his neighbor was a thief.

As a result, the young man was arrested. Days later the young man was

proven innocent. After been released he sued the old man for wrongly

accusing him.

In court the old man told the Judge: 'They were just comments, didn't

harm anyone..'

The judge, before passing sentence on the case, told the old man: 'Write

all the things you said about him on a piece of paper. Cut them up and

on the way home, throw the pieces of paper out. Tomorrow, come back to

hear the sentence.'

The next day, the judge told the old man: 'Before receiving the

sentence, you will have to go out and gather all the pieces of paper

that you threw out yesterday.'

The old man said: 'I can't do that! The wind spread them and I won't

know where to find them.'

The judge then replied: 'The same way, simple comments may destroy the

honor of a man to such an extent that one is not able to fix it.

#Moral_of_the_story

"If you can't speak well of someone, rather don't say anything"

'Let's all be masters of our mouths so that we won't be slaves of our words.'

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𝐓𝐨𝐩 𝟏𝟎𝟎 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 "𝟏𝟎𝟏 𝐒𝐈𝐌𝐏𝐋𝐄 𝐓𝐑𝐔𝐓𝐇𝐒 𝐅𝐎𝐑 𝐀 𝐁𝐄𝐓𝐓𝐄𝐑 𝐋𝐈𝐅𝐄"

 𝐓𝐨𝐩 𝟏𝟎𝟎 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 "𝟏𝟎𝟏 𝐒𝐈𝐌𝐏𝐋𝐄 𝐓𝐑𝐔𝐓𝐇𝐒 𝐅𝐎𝐑 𝐀 𝐁𝐄𝐓𝐓𝐄𝐑 𝐋𝐈𝐅𝐄"

1. Be humble; you don't know everything.

2. Lift weights often.

3. Take walks in nature.

4. Seek discomfort often.

5. Think progress, not perfection.

6. Harness your ego

7. Don't sell out for a quick buck.

8. If you can do it now, don't wait until tomorrow.

9. Do deep work daily.

10. Only expend energy on the controllable.

11. Laugh at yourself. Chill.

12. Stop doing things you don't like.

13. “Whenever you are offended, understand that you are complicit in taking offense.” — Epictetus

14. Find a hobby that has no financial goal.

15. Limit your inner circle.

16. Train yourself to view obstacles as opportunities.

17. Don't talk about what you're going to do. Talk about what you did.

18. Read books to learn, not to brag you read books.

19. Do something hard every day.

20. People are not worried about you. They're worried about themself. Take solace in that.

21. Think deeply before making a decision.

22. Get sunlight exposure daily.

23. “Associate with people who are likely to improve you. Welcome those who you are capable of improving.”

24. Invest in one piece of beautiful art and put it in your home.

25. Get a loving pet, and your joy will rise.

26. Set personal deadlines for increased productivity.

27. Brag on others, not on yourself.

28. Go to bed on time.

29. Don't take your phone to bed.

30. “Always say less than necessary.” — Robert Greene

31. Remember, "well done" is better than "well said".

32. Realize you can learn from everyone you meet.

33. Don't compare yourself to others.

34. Pray when things are bad. Pray when things are good.

35. Value your marriage more than your career.

36. Internalize the truth that hates won't heal you.

37. Read the classics. They're timeless for a reason.

38. Choose to be powerful, not pitiful.

39. Your temper is a liability, not an asset.

40. Self-affirmations are overrated. Generate evidence.

41. Pay it forward often.

42. Don't worry about the price of a book. Just buy it if you will read it.

43. To see wrong, and do nothing, is wrong.

44. Be a student until the day you die.

45. Work to owe no one anything.

46. Consider the cost before moving forward.

47. Be known as a giver, not a taker.

48. Every time you are blessed, try to be a blessing.

49. Value solitude

50. Lean into challenges.

51. Pursue experiences, not things.

52. Cut toxic people from your life.

53. Visualize success habitually.

54. Stop wasting energy trying to impress people on social with fakery.

55. Have a good "why" for everything you do. If you don't, stop doing it.

56. Don't try to beat others. Beat who you were yesterday.

57. Be strict with yourself and lenient with others.

58. Become a master of negotiation.

59. Read biographies of the greats that went before you. Study them.

60. Have kids. There is no greater joy.

61. Forgive, even if they don't deserve it. It's not for them. It's for you.

62. Spend time with older people.

63. There is no shortcut. Learn and get to work.

64. Build discipline, don't rely on motivation.

65. Don't shun cliches. Their wisdom is timeless.

66. Read to learn, don't read to read.

67. Read philosophy.

68. Determine your philosophy.

69. Fuel the habit bonfire.

70. Life in the present, forget the past.

71. Walk every day.

72. Tell the truth all the time.

73. No job is beneath you.

74. Make a habit of handwriting "thank-you" notes.

75. Memento Mori - think about your death. Let it change you positively.

76. Gain wealth for freedom, not status.

77. Always be the hardest worker in the room.

78. Never be the most successful person in the room.

79. Process over destination.

80. Never walk past trash and ignore it.

81. Play chess.

82. Talk to strangers. It will teach you a lot.

83. Don't dogmatize routines.

84. Learn to succeed in subpar conditions.

85. Practice the law of action, not attraction.

86. Fail often. Just don't quit.

87. When you fall, get up quickly.

88. Journal

89. Stop watching the news.

90. Audit your time every quarter. Where are the time vampires?

91. Don't be jealous of those ahead of you; learn from them.

92. Your character is more important than your bank account.

93. Say no (a lot).

94. Success is more than wealth.

95. Don't judge others.

96. "Do to others what you would have them do to you" - Jesus Christ

97. Wake up early.

98. Cut out alcohol.

99. Love your neighbor.

100. Live an interesting life.

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Top 6 lessons learned from the book- DO IT TODAY

 Top 6 lessons learned from the book- DO IT TODAY 

1. STOP LOOKING FOR SHORTCUT, AND DO THE WORK.

Building a business or career is hard. It requires you to do difficult, tedious, and unsatisfying tasks. If you want more clients or work, no one is going to hand it to you. You have to hustle. Do content marketing, one-on-one sales, network, or whatever method you use to grow your business.

And if you want to climb the corporate ladder, you have to form alliances, be strategic, outperform your targets, and be great at what you do.

Thats what you SHOULD do, right? Most of us already know these things. Or, you will find out about it. Theres no such thing as a secret to succeeding at work.

2. ELIMINATE. ELIMINATE. ELIMINATE

Elimination is a key strategy that I use for many aspects of my life. We accumulate so much unnecessary baggage throughout the years that we consistently need to eliminate. If you find yourself struggling to focus, try this strategy. Make your life so simple that its a breeze to live. And lets be honest here. Who wants to live a life thats impossible? Life is already hard enough. Dont make it harder.

3. WILLPOWER DOESNT WORK. SYSTEMS DO.

What you really need is a system for doing work. A lot of people shy away from routines, systems and frameworks because they want to have freedom. Im sorry to disappoint you: Freedom is your enemy. The fact is that, if you want to get things done, you need rules.

If you combine the right productivity tactics, you have a productivity system. The deadlines create urgency, accountability will create responsibility, working in intervals improves your focus, exercising will give you more energy, so does a healthy diet, and eliminating distractions will take away the temptations.

4. DISCONNECT FROM THE INTERNET.

And theres only one reason to do that: Too

much of anything is a bad thing. Even good

things. Too much exercise? You will get

overtrained.

Too much love? You will smother people. Too much work? You will burn out. Too much food? You will get fat. Too much water? You will die.

So why do you consume so much internet?

5. MANAGE YOUR ATTENTION

Focus determines the quality of your life. No

focus means no control of your attention.

And no control means frustration. We all know what frustration leads to. Start managing your attention. Not your time.

6. REST.

You recharge your phone when it runs out of

juice. You refill your gas tank when youre

running on empty. But sometimes, you

forget to do the same for your most

precious possession: Your body (and the

brain thats inside of it).

1. #doittoday

2. #motivation

3. #inspiration

4. #productivity

5. #selfimprovement

6. #successmindset

7. #goalsetting

8. #lifegoals

9. #time management

10. #personaldevelopment

11. #mindfulness

12. #positivevibes

13. #habitformation

14. #selfdiscipline

15. #achievement

16. #empowerment

17. #mentaltoughness

18. #focus

19. #gratitude

20. #mindsetshift

21. #action

22. #perseverance

23. #workethic

24. #hardworkpaysoff

25. #determination

26. #resilience 

27. #selfgrowth

28. #nevergiveup

29. #worksmart

30. #dreambig

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 8 lessons from the book Surrounded by Bad Bosses and Lazy Employees by Thomas Erikson:

1. When we're surrounded by bad bosses and lazy employees, it can be easy to start feeling helpless and frustrated. But the truth is, we have more power than we realize to influence the people and situations around us.

2. Communication is key when it comes to dealing with difficult coworkers and bosses. But it's not just about what we say - it's about how we say it and how we listen.

3. Setting boundaries is essential for maintaining our own sanity and productivity in the face of challenging workplace dynamics. But it can be difficult to do, especially if we're used to putting others' needs before our own.

4. When we're dealing with bad bosses and lazy employees, it's important to remember that everyone has their own motivations and priorities. By understanding what makes them tick, we can more effectively communicate and work together.

5. One of the biggest challenges in dealing with difficult coworkers and bosses is managing our own emotions. But with practice, we can learn to stay calm and focused, even in the most frustrating situations.

6. When it comes to dealing with difficult people at work, there's no one-size-fits-all solution. But by experimenting with different approaches and strategies, we can find what works best for us.

7. Taking responsibility for our own happiness and success is key to thriving in any workplace, no matter how challenging. By focusing on what we can control and letting go of what we can't, we can create a more fulfilling and rewarding career.

8. At the end of the day, the key to dealing with difficult people at work is to stay true to ourselves and our values. By staying grounded in who we are and what we stand for, we can navigate even the toughest workplace dynamics with grace and resilience.

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𝐓𝐨𝐩 𝟏𝟎 𝐋𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐅𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐁𝐨𝐨𝐤 "𝐍𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐒𝐩𝐥𝐢𝐭 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐃𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞"

 𝐓𝐨𝐩 𝟏𝟎 𝐋𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐅𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐁𝐨𝐨𝐤 "𝐍𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐒𝐩𝐥𝐢𝐭 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐃𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞"

1. Negotiation has new rules. It's not about bullying or beating the other side into submission.

Negotiation begins when the other side feels accepted and understood.

2. Listen intently to gather information and make the other side feel understood.

The more understood they feel, the more likely they will reveal important information.

3. Repeat the last critical 3 words the other side said, followed by a pause, to keep them talking.

A technique known as 'mirroring.'

4. Direct and assertive tones create defensiveness.

Keep your voice soft and slow or positive and playful.

5. Help the other side overcome their emotional obstacles by labeling them.

For example, "It seems you're unhappy with our proposal."

By giving their emotions a name, you call attention to them and make them feel validated.

6. Labelling negative emotions helps people calm down when angry.

They're less likely to continue acting on negative emotions once they are made aware of them. Always acknowledge the negative to diffuse it.

7. Saying 'no' makes people feel safe, secure, and in control.

Get them to say no by reframing your questions. "Do you have a few minutes to talk?" becomes "Is now a good time to talk?"

8. "That's right" creates breakthroughs.

"Yes" can be a smokescreen where the other side doesn't feel comfortable saying no. Summarize everything the other party has said to get a "that's right."

9. Anchor their emotions on their fears.

Make the other side aware of what they must lose if the deal falls through. By preparing them for a loss, they will likely work with you to avoid it.

10. Use "what" and "how" questions to give the other side the illusion of control.

They get them working on the problem while feeling like they are in charge.

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All 25 Key Learnings from book “25 Ways to Win with People” by John C. Maxwell:

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All 25 Key Learnings from  book “25 Ways to Win with People” by John C. Maxwell:

1. Smile and create a positive atmosphere.

2. Greet people by their name to show respect.

3. Listen carefully and genuinely to understand people and their perspectives.

4. Focus on common interests and goals to create synergy.

5. Be sincere and honest in your communication.

6. Show appreciation regularly for contributions and accomplishments.

7. Find ways to serve people and meet their needs.

8. Empathize with others and show compassion.

9. Avoid negative assumptions and judgments.

10. Make people feel included and valued.

11. Build trust through consistency and reliability.

12. Give feedback constructively and positively.

13. Encourage and inspire others to be their best.

14. Offer solutions instead of complaints.

15. Be open to feedback and willing to learn from others.

16. Collaborate and find win-win solutions.

17. Be patient and tolerant with others' mistakes and imperfections.

18. Communicate clearly and professionally to avoid misunderstandings.

19. Gain the trust and respect of others by embracing diversity.

20. Foster a positive and supportive work environment.

21. Be adaptable and flexible to change.

22. Demonstrate competence and expertise.

23. Show confidence and self-assurance without arrogance.

24. Stay accountable for your actions and decisions.

25. Continuously invest in building and nurturing

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