How do Intelligent People Deal with Difficult and Tox!c People

 How do Intelligent People Deal with Difficult and Tox!c People.

2. Do not take anything they do or say personally. Nothing that they do or say is because of you. It is because of themselves. Don’t take anything personally because by taking things personally you set yourself up to suffer for nothing. You can never feel hurt by what they say or do until you take it personal. 

3. Don’t befriend them and be more mindful about what types of people you allow into your life. Tox!c people have a way of sending out the vibe that you owe them something. They also have a way of taking from you or doing something that hurts you, then maintaining they were doing it all for you. 

3. Set limits, especially with complainers. Complainers and negative people are bad news because they wallow in their problems and fail to focus on solutions. They want people to join their pity party so that they can feel better about themselves. You can avoid this only by setting limits and distancing yourself when necessary.

4. Become aware of their emotions. To maintain emotional distance, you need to be aware of those emotions. You can’t stop someone from pushing your buttons if you don’t recognize when it’s happening. Understand how their emotions hurt you plan the best way to free yourself from them. You can establish a boundary, but you will have to do it consciously and proactively. 

5. Do not let anyone limit your joy. When your sense of pleasure and satisfaction are derived from the opinions of other people, you are no longer the master of your own happiness. When intelligent people feel good about something that they have done, they won’t let anyone’s opinions or unpleasant remarks take that away from them.

6. Intelligent people do not focus on problems; they focus only on solutions. Where you focus your attention determines your emotional state. When you occupy your mind with problems you are facing, you create and prolong negative emotions and stress. But when you focus on actions to better yourself and your circumstances, you create a sense of personal efficacy that produces positive emotions and reduces stress.

7. They squash negative self-talk. Sometimes you can nurse negative feelings about how someone is treating you. There is nothing wrong with feeling bad about how others treat you, but your self-talk can either intensify the negativity or help you move past it. Negative self-talk can sends you into a downward emotional spiral that is difficult to pull out of. You should avoid negative self-talk at all costs.