அறிவின் காதலன்: June 2023

Friday, June 30, 2023

Tips on the rules of living with people:

1. When you meet young people - INSPIRE THEM.

2. When you meet children - EDUCATE THEM.

3. When you meet old people - HELP THEM.

4. When you meet wise people - STUDY THEM.

5. When you meet leaders - HONOUR THEM.

6. When you meet foolish people - AVOID THEM.

7. When you meet humble people - TREASURE THEM.

8. When you meet arrogant people - IGNORE THEM.

9. When you meet gracious people - EMULATE THEM.

10. When you meet aspirational people - ELEVATE THEM.

11. When you meet strong people - SUPPORT THEM.

12. When you meet godly people - BLESS THEM.

13. When you meet elderly people - RESPECT THEM.

14. When you meet weak people - STRENGTHEN THEM.

15. When you meet hardworking people - ENCOURAGE THEM.

16. When you meet kind people - ESTEEM THEM.

17. When you meet Honest people -

PROMOTE THEM.

18. When you meet virtuous people - REWARD THEM.

19. When you meety evil people - EVADE THEM.

20. And in all situation “Watch, Pray and wish everyone well.

1. Dr. Ben Carson said, "I struggled academically throughout elementary school yet became the best neurosurgeon in the world in 1987."

LESSON: Struggling is a sign that you are on a verge of success. Don't quit yet.

2. Bill Gates said, "I didn't even complete my university education but became the world's richest man."

LESSON: School does not make you rich. School is only supposed to polish what will make you rich, not make you rich.

3. Christiano Ronaldo said, "I told my father that we would be very rich but he couldn't believe me. I made it a reality."

LESSON: Your words rule your life. If you mean what you have said, each word will come to pass. You get what you say.

4. Hear Lionel Messi!, "I used to serve tea at a shop to support my football training and still became one of the world's best footballers."

LESSON: Believe in your dream. Don't let your pain tell you how your future will look like.

5. Steve Jobs penned, "I used to sleep on the floor in my friends' rooms, returning coke bottles for food, money, and getting weekly free meals at a local temple, I later on founded Apple Company."

LESSON: That you are small today doesn't mean you will be small tomorrow. Keep trusting God.

6. Former British PM, Tony Blair said & I quote, "My teachers used to call me a failure, but I became a Prime Minister."

LESSON: Don't let someone else's opinions of you become your reality.

7. Bishop David Oyedepo said, "I started Living Faith Church from a lawn tennis court with three members only & preached prosperity. Many of my friends criticised me, but today we have the largest church auditorium in the world & two world-class universities."

LESSON: Believe in yourself even if no one does & never think of quitting.

8. Nelson Mandela said, "I was in prison for 27 years & still became president."

LESSON: You can be anything you want to be no matter where you have been or what you have been through.

9.REECE "I drove a taxi to finance my university education but today I'm a billionaire."

LESSON: Don't let your past decide the kind of future you need to have.

10. Harland Sanders, Founder of KFC said, "I was on the verge of suicide when an Idea of opening a restaurant hit me after I retired as a cook in the Navy."

LESSON: Nothing is ever too late. "Too late" is a language of failures. Your future can begin at any age. Don't ever let AGE limit you.

11. Aliko Dangote said, "I worked for my uncle since I was a small boy, people looked down on me. I later on took a loan from my uncle to open a tiny shop. I worked hard to make ends meet. Now I am the richest Man in Africa.

LESSON: Failures or limitations of the past have no control over the greatness in you. To him that believes, all things are possible.

12. Barack Hussein Obama said, I am a son of a black immigrant from Kenya, I graduated from Harvard and later on became a Senator in Chicago. I was also the President of the most powerful nation on Earth.

LESSON: Never design your life like a garden where anyone can walk in and out. Design it like the sky where everyone aspires to reach!

13. Arnold Swarzzenegger said, I traveled to America in search of financial independence when I was 15yrs old. I became the world's strongest man 7 times and Mr Universe. I then got my Economics degree, then I became one of Hollywood's best actors before I was voted twice as governor of California."

LESSON: Don't wait for everybody to believe in your ability and dreams.

I came across this piece,and I feel it will be helpful to me and some of us here .

kindly take your time to read. 🥰🥰

Baking is a wonderful passion that can also be turned into a fulfilling profession. Many people find joy and satisfaction in creating delicious baked goods and sharing them with others. If you're passionate about baking and considering pursuing it as a profession, here are some things to keep in mind:

Acquire the necessary skills: Start by honing your baking skills. Experiment with different recipes, techniques, and ingredients to expand your knowledge and expertise. Consider taking baking classes or attending workshops to learn from professionals and gain practical experience.

Develop a strong foundation: Familiarize yourself with the fundamental techniques and principles of baking. Learn about ingredient functions, measurement conversions, mixing methods, and temperature control. Building a solid foundation will provide a strong basis for your future endeavors.

Explore different baking specialties: Baking encompasses a wide range of specialties, such as bread, pastries, cakes, cookies, and more. Experiment with different types of baked goods to discover what interests you the most. You can choose to specialize in a particular area or become a versatile baker offering a variety of treats.

Gain professional experience: Look for opportunities to gain professional experience in the baking industry. Consider working at a bakery, pastry shop, or restaurant to learn from experienced bakers, observe their techniques, and understand the dynamics of a commercial kitchen. This experience will help you develop important skills and give you a taste of the professional baking environment.

Build a portfolio: Document your baking creations by taking high-quality photos and maintaining a portfolio. This will showcase your skills and help you market yourself to potential clients or employers. Create an online presence through social media platforms or a personal website to share your work and attract a wider audience.

Networking and collaborations: Connect with other professionals in the baking industry, such as chefs, bakers, and food bloggers. Attend culinary events, trade shows, or baking competitions to meet like-minded individuals and build valuable connections. Collaborating with others can provide opportunities for growth, exposure, and learning.

Consider formal education: While formal education is not always required, it can provide you with a solid educational background and a competitive edge. Look for culinary schools or programs that offer specialized baking courses or degrees in pastry arts. These programs often provide hands-on training, industry connections, and a deeper understanding of the culinary world.

Start small: If you're interested in starting your own baking business, consider beginning on a smaller scale. Start by selling your baked goods at local farmers' markets, food fairs, or through online platforms. This will allow you to gain experience in managing your own business, interacting with customers, and refining your recipes.

Stay updated and innovative: Keep up with current baking trends, techniques, and flavors. Attend workshops, read industry publications, and follow influential bakers on social media to stay inspired and informed. Embrace creativity and constantly challenge yourself to develop new recipes and concepts.

Seek feedback and learn from it: Always welcome feedback from customers, friends, and peers. Constructive criticism can help you improve your skills and enhance your baking. Use feedback as an opportunity for growth and continuous learning.

Remember, turning your passion for baking into a profession requires dedication, perseverance, and continuous learning. With the right skills, experience, and entrepreneurial mindset, you can create a successful career in the baking industry. Enjoy the journey and keep exploring the delicious world of baking!

6 LAWS TO WIN IN LIFE

1.Stop telling people your plans

When you over share, you hurt your own progress. Keep things private and win.

2.Know when to say no

Strong people put their own well being before pleasing others. Practice saying no more often.

3. Make a decision, and commit to it

Too many people lack discipline and go back to their toxic patterns. Make a decision to change, and stick to it.

4. There is power in numbers

Nobody has made it in life all by themselves. You need a team that uplifts and supports you. Stop being a lone wolf.

5. Starve your distractions, feed your focus

Focus on your goals instead of

cheap dopamine. You will achieve anything you ever wanted.

6. Always provide value to others

There is only one secret to success: making other people's lives easier. In business and relationships, providing value will keep you their first priority.

SOME SOCIAL RULES THAT MAY HELP YOU:

1. Don’t call someone more than twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your call, presume they have something important to attend to;

2. Return money that you have borrowed even before the person that borrowed you remember or ask for it. It shows your integrity and character. Same goes with umbrellas, pens and lunch boxes.

3. Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is giving you a lunch/dinner.

4. Don’t ask awkward questions like ‘Oh so you aren’t married yet?’ Or ‘Don’t you have kids’ or ‘Why didn’t you buy a house?’ Or why don't you buy a car? For God’s sake it isn’t your problem;

5. Always open the door for the person coming behind you. It doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl, senior or junior. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public;

6. If you take a taxi with a friend and he/she pays now, try paying next time;

7. Respect different shades of opinions. Remember what's 6 to you will appear 9 to someone facing you. Besides, second opinion is good for an alternative;

8. Never interrupt people talking. Allow them to pour it out. As they say, hear them all and filter them all;

9. If you tease someone, and they don’t seem to enjoy it, stop it and never do it again. It encourages one to do more and it shows how appreciative you're;

10. Say “thank you” when someone is helping you.

11. Praise publicly. Criticize privately;

12. There’s almost never a reason to comment on someone’s weight. Just say, “You look fantastic.” If they want to talk about losing weight, they will;

13. When someone shows you a photo on their phone, don’t swipe left or right. You never know what’s next;

14. If a colleague tells you they have a doctors' appointment, don’t ask what it’s for, just say "I hope you’re okay". Don’t put them in the uncomfortable position of having to tell you their personal illness. If they want you to know, they'll do so without your inquisitiveness;

15. Treat the cleaner with the same respect as the CEO. Nobody is impressed at how rude you can treat someone below you but people will notice if you treat them with respect;

16. If a person is speaking directly to you, staring at your phone is rude;

17. Never give advice until you’re asked;

18. When meeting someone after a long time, unless they want to talk about it, don’t ask them their age and salary;

19. Mind your business unless anything involves you directly - just stay out of it;

20. Remove your sunglasses if you are talking to anyone in the street. It is a sign of respect. Moreso, eye contact is as important as your speech; and

21. Never talk about your riches in the midst of the poor. Similarly, don't talk about your children in the midst of the barren.

22.After reading a good message try to say "Thanks for the message".

Thursday, June 29, 2023

Yes! You are strong enough to survive this.

Yes,

You are strong enough to survive this.

I know it seems like your world is over and maybe you can’t find the light right now, but hang in there.

I know your soul is weary and you feel like you can’t keep going, but don’t stop.

Your happiness may seem so far away, but it’s not as far as you might think.

Yes, the nights can be long and you don’t have any answers, but you don’t have to.

Breathe.

Take a moment and remember what all you’ve survived before now.

You’ve been through the fire and always found your way..your courage has been forged in the flames that tried to take you down.

Remember that- you’re a warrior who will continue to rise again.

It’s time to find your magic again and listen to your heart.

It knows the way, but you’ve gotten so weary that you’ve lost the path.

If you’ve lost faith in yourself and your strength is waning, know that you’re not alone.

You’re loved, you’re enough and I believe in you.

It’s always darkest before dawn and this is your time to start again.

Every end is a new beginning and your next chapter will be magical..

You just have to start believing in you like I do.

Like all the people in your life do.

I know you’re reading this and wondering how you’ll make it through this, I’m telling you..

You got this.

You are meant for more than to simply fizzle out like a dampened flicker of light.

You’re a wildfire capable of setting your soul and life on fire again.

Take my hand and let’s start climbing out of the darkness, day by day.

I know you’ve been looking for a sign, something to believe in..

Well, this is it.

Today is your wake up call and this is where you start again- you’re strong enough and you’re worth it.

It won’t be easy and it won’t be fast, but it will change your life if you’re ready.

These words were meant for you.

Are you ready to start again?

Believe, darling..in you, your destiny and most of all, in that you are meant for more.

Beginning today..get up, step up and start remembering the magic and dreams you lost along the way.

Anything’s possible if you just believe..

And I believe in you.❤️

𝐓𝐨𝐩 5 𝐌𝐨𝐬𝐭 𝐏𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐋𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐅𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐁𝐨𝐨𝐤 "𝐄𝐠𝐨 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐄𝐧𝐞𝐦𝐲".

𝟏. 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐬𝐭 𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐦𝐲 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮.

"Wherever you are, whatever you’re doing, your worst enemy already lives inside you: your ego."

Since pride is in us, it is either we feed it or starve it.

How you deal with your pride makes the big difference.

𝟐. 𝐌𝐚𝐧𝐚𝐠𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐝𝐞

"Your ego is not some power you’re forced to satiate at every turn. It can be managed. It can be directed."

As soon as you feel you are becoming egoistic, boastful, and proud – you can tell yourself to stop.

𝟑. 𝐏𝐫𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐤, 𝐡𝐮𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐨 𝐥𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐧.

Ego encourages you to lift yourself and base your worth on nothing or false worth.

On the other hand, humility tells you how important it is to listen to people.

𝟒. 𝐁𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐚 𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭

Ego tells you not to listen to anyone.

As a result, you stop learning.

When you become a student, you lay aside your pride.

You admit to yourself that you don’t know everything.

So, if you want to keep on learning, learn to be humble first.

𝟓. 𝐇𝐞𝐥𝐩 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐠𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭

Ego focuses on self.

Humility focuses on others.

If you want to become great, you need to help other people become great.

That’s just how the universal law works.

12 Important Unspoken Social Rules You Should Know.

1. Don't interrupt when someone is talking. - neuroticals do this CONSTANTLY. Despite touting it as a rule, people actually seem to only get upset when an autistic person or person with ADHD does it. People with ADHD can't hold their thought, and know this, and need to share it while they have it... That's why they sometimes try to get it out immediately. If you don't interrupt others, try leaving breaks in the conversation for the other person to say something.

2. Don't judge someone by their appearance. Many people have missed opportunities as a result of it. While I generally agree with this, it's important for those of us that are ND to know that NTs WILL be making assumptions about us based on appearances, and how we look and carry ourselves matters an inordinate amount to them. If you find yourself judging someone else on their appearance, maybe consider that how it looks wasn't more important than the pain something else may cause or the sensory overwhelm. It's not more important than body temperature regulation, and that person's ability to prioritize their self-care.

3. Always respect someone's personal space. If they ask for it, honor it, but a lot of people have difficulty with spacial recognition, even and perhaps especially, with regard to where their own body is in relation to something/someone else... Additionally, correct personal space distance is cultural, familial, and regional... Don't assume someone is trying to violate your boundaries. Just let them know your preferences.

4. Never assume something about someone. Talk to them if you care.

5. Apologize when you're wrong. Ego never adds anything valuable to you. Rather it subtracts. Often it's a trauma response that causes an inability to take accountability for your actions, but it's actually vital to learn to do so. If someone takes accountability, especially if it seems like it was difficult, don't rub their noses in it. Don't punish behaviors you want to see.

6. Don't talk badly about someone behind their back. It is a way of telling the audience you will do the same about them. More than that it's unkind. If you wouldn't say it to their faces, don't say it at all.

7. Be honest, even if it's hard. And say No when it is not comfortable to you, even if it hurts. More women are killed this way, I swear... Honesty is vital, and so is saying no when it matters, but never do something that's going to endanger your life or someone else's, including saying no, if there's a way for you to stay safe. I'm not going to judge you for surviving.

8. Don't gossip or spread rumours, even on social media. Don't believe anything you hear about a person from a third party, BUT always try to believe victims, and honor their decisions to remove a person from their lives for any reason.

9. Don't stare or make inappropriate comments about people. Don't comment anything about a person if they don't have control over it, or can't easily change it. This involves their body shapes... I could write a novel about that, but I'll just leave it there.

10. Treat others how you want to be treated. No. Treat others how they want to be treated.

11. Offer help when you can, but do not be compelled to do so. Offer help when you can, but make sure your needs are met.

12. Don't let your anger control your actions. Or your fear.

13 QUOTES ABOUT THE FEAR OF WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK

1. “Don't let someone else's opinion of you become your reality." - Les Brown

2. “The greatest prison people live in is the fear of what other people think." - David Icke

3. “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

4."Don't let the noise of other people's opinions drown out your own inner voice." - Steve Jobs

5. “The only way to avoid criticism is to do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing." - Aristotle

6. “What other people think of you is none of your business." - Paulo Coelho

7. “Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner." - Lao Tzu

8. “Don't be distracted by criticism. Remember, the only taste of success some people get is to take a bite out of you." - Zig Ziglar

9. “Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself." - Harvey Fierstein

10. “You were born an original. Don't die a copy." - John Mason

11. “Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn't have the time to sit around and talk about you. What's important to me is not others' opinions of me, but what's important to me is my opinion of myself." - C. JoyBell C.

12. “Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you'll be criticized anyway." - Eleanor Roosevelt

13. “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches." - Dita Von Teese

Tuesday, June 27, 2023

How to Become Emotionally Strong and Intelligent.

1. Don’t let people control your thoughts, reactions, and emotions. Smart people would like to fit their thoughts in your mind through conviction, repetition, luring, offers, affection, and appreciation.

2. Realize that negative emotions aren’t always negative. Sometimes, negativity is a sign of progress, change, or growth. Whenever you leave a comfort zone you ought to fear and get anxious.

3. Take the words and ignore the noise. Don’t react to reactions, don’t react to immaturity, don’t react to emotions. React to facts, logic, meanings and sensible questions.

4. Never consider yourself as perfect and complete. Always identify space for improvement. Realize imperfections in your opinions, choices, and thoughts. Realize that your thought process is restricted by limited knowledge and experiences and be open to corrections.

5. Never be quick to jump on a judgement. Think about an event with neutrality, empathy and lack of sentiment, and then decide.

6. Don’t aim at perfection, perfectionism is a sickness and not greatness, let life run naturally, the way it is, and realize that people ought to make mistakes, things may not turn out as expected, and each day may bring some disappointments.

Wednesday, June 21, 2023

10 Lessons from the book "How to not Die Alone by Logan Ury

How to Not Die Alone" is a book by Logan Ury that explores themes of loneliness, human connection, and finding meaning in life. While I don't have access to the specific lessons outlined in the book, I can provide you with ten general lessons that can be learned from the topic of loneliness and the importance of building meaningful relationships:

1. Cultivate authentic connections: Prioritize building genuine relationships based on trust, openness, and shared interests.

2. Be vulnerable: Allow yourself to be vulnerable with others, as it creates deeper connections and fosters understanding.

3. Reach out to others: Take the initiative to reach out and connect with people. Don't wait for others to make the first move.

4. Embrace social opportunities: Participate in social activities and events that align with your interests to expand your social circle.

5. Listen actively: Practice active listening and show genuine interest in others' lives. It helps strengthen connections and builds empathy.

6. Be present: When spending time with others, be fully present and engaged. Put away distractions and focus on the moment.

7. Show kindness and empathy: Treat others with kindness and understanding. Small acts of kindness can go a long way in fostering meaningful connections.

8. Nurture existing relationships: Invest time and effort into maintaining and deepening your existing relationships. Regular communication and quality time are important.

9. Seek support when needed: Don't hesitate to reach out for support when you're feeling lonely or struggling emotionally. There are people who care and are willing to help.

10. Find meaning and purpose: Discover activities, causes, or hobbies that bring you fulfillment and a sense of purpose. Engaging in meaningful pursuits can lead to opportunities for connection with like-minded individuals.

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Ten lessons from Darius Foroux's book "Do It Today":

1. Don't wait for the perfect moment. The perfect moment will never come. The only way to get started is to take action, even if you're not sure what you're doing.

2. Break down your goals into small steps. Large goals can be daunting and overwhelming. Break them down into smaller, more manageable steps that you can take one at a time.

3. Set deadlines for yourself. Deadlines will help you stay on track and avoid procrastination.

4. Eliminate distractions. This means turning off your phone, closing your email, and finding a quiet place to work.

5. Take action even when you don't feel like it. Sometimes the hardest part is just getting started. Once you get started, you'll often find that the momentum carries you through.

6. Celebrate your successes. This will help you stay motivated and on track.

7. Don't be afraid to ask for help. If you're struggling, don't be afraid to ask for help from a friend, family member, or professional.

8. Be patient. It takes time to develop the discipline and follow-through to achieve your goals. Don't get discouraged if you don't see results immediately.

9. Don't give up. The only way to fail is to give up. If you keep trying, you will eventually succeed.

10. Learn from your mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes. The important thing is to learn from them and not make the same mistake twice.

Following these lessons can help you develop the discipline and follow-through to achieve your goals. This will lead to greater success in all areas of your life.

15 QUOTES ABOUT THE FEAR OF WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK